Girls as ring bearers?????

That is adorable. I honestly think the title of ring bearer is gender neutral. People just associate it with a boy since that is the "tradition." I say break stereotypes, call them ring bearers and that's that! :-)

Personally we are having FWs nephew as our flower "girl" and we aren't really calling him a title, just, ok you will be throwing pedals lol. I hate all the stereotypical gender roles in weddings personally.

Why not? In my opinion, those gender-based roles are ripe for tossing away anyway.

@Cassie and Jacks took the words right out of my mouth. They are bearing the rings so ring bearer would work.

We had "flower children" (my 4 yr old nephew and 2 yr old niece) and a ring bearer/chalice lighter (my 12 yr niece). My older niece walked with our officiant, read our chalice lighting words, and lit our UU chalice at the beginning of our ceremony. She also carried a little box with our rings in it and placed the box on the table with the chalice. The two older children picked what they wanted to do. The two yr old's mom (my sister) picked her role. There is no need to worry about gender roles because "tradition" can be tossed out the window if you want.

Girls can be ring bearers. I don't think you need to change the name.

I think that ringbearer is a gender neutral term, no need to change unless you'd like to! I think it's fine the way it is!

Nothing wrong with that. It's not called "ring boy". One of my bridesmaids is male and will be wearing a suit

I am female and I was the ring bearer way back in the early 90s for one of my mom's cousins wedding. My sister was the flower girl, we wore matching dresses, she carried flowers and I carried the fake rings on a pillow. There was nothing weird about it. Side story, at the reception I lost the fake rings and I was terrified because I thought they were real! I kept hiding the pillow because I didn't want people to know they were gone.

It's 2017 ... let the girl be a ring bearer. Besides I don't believe that is gender specific.

I like the "Ring Team" name! How cute!

Are your nieces sisters? You could get them matching "Ring Team" shirts to wear before the ceremony! Ahh, I bet they would get a kick out of it.

(My cousin and I were flower girls at our aunts wedding when we were little. She made us "The Flower Girls" shirts and we felt so cool!)

I have 3 daughters ... and I ran into the issue of no ring bearer ... because my older two where gonna walk me ... but then my 7 year old said shed rather have her own spotlight (diva) and be the ring bearer ... I'm just calling her that lol

Smash the patriarchy!

I think it sounds very cute to have a team of ring bearers, and I personally don't find the term gendered, but call them whatever you like, team, squad, attendants...

How old are they?

My daughter carried our rings but she wanted to he a jr bridesmaid. I wouldn't recommend letting a child under 8 actually carry rings! My kid is 9 and it still made me nervous she would lose them!

If she does, I wouldn't get a pillow either. Get a case or box. We got a box from Etsy with out initials on it.

I liked the "ring team" idea. That's cute!

I think itd still be one to say ring bearer but I like the ring team idea. Its cute

This was great advice!!! They are not sisters, but they are very close. I figured people would really only know to call them ring bearers anyway, but I wanted to make them feel really special.

I absolutely love the idea of making them shirts for before the ceremony and even to wear to the reception!

Thank you all for the awesome tips and advice!

Nothing wrong with that

It's your day do things how you want. Start your own tradition

I'm having my twin goddaughters as the flower girls and their older sister is going to bring the rings down.

I dont think I'll change her title.