Gifts/Eloping

It's not tacky for you to register. However, it's tacky as hell for you to send out announcements listing those registries. You as a bride or groom should never put registry information on a piece of paper sent to guests ever. Only showers hosted by other people may list registries.

If a guest wants to give you a gift they can google your names and the registries pop up on the first page. If your area mainly gives gifts for weddings I do recommend registering. No one in my circle gives cash and most think it's crass and impersonal, so to avoid getting a bunch of crystal vases I would stealth register. One of my bridesmaids just had an immediate family only wedding, so I googled her registry and ordered her China even though I was not invited. I like giving gifts and appreciated that she had registered so I could get her something she actually wanted.

It's tacky. You don't get presents if you aren't hosting people in any capacity to celebrate the wedding, sorry.

View Quoted Comment Why? why do people who force you to spend time and money to celebrate them have to buy gifts but not if they DON'T make you do that?

If people want to give you a gift afterwards they’ll probably ask you or just check online themselves. Or they’ll just send some cash. I don’t think it’s uncommon for close family to still want to give a gift of some sort.

I actually just read another thread on here about whether or not they should send a gift to their cousin who eloped. Most people said they would send a gift or check or card and the OP said the couple did register as so many people were asking them. So it’s kinda interesting the difference in the two threads. But I’d recommend checking that one out

It should be about wishing the couple well on their new life together (with a gift) not whether or not you were invited to a big bash or not. Some couples don’t have $50k for a big party (or parents to fork it over for them) and they have a lot of family/ friends that would be extremely hurt if they were left off of the guest list. So… their only option is to … elope. They shouldn’t get screwed out of a gift from close family or friends because they didn’t have the money for a giant party. I think it’s even MORE tacky and low class of the family and friends NOT to acknowledge the couple that eloped with a gift of some sort and recognize their special day!