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Just Said Yes March 2021

Gifts to the moms

Ashley, on April 19, 2020 at 2:59 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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Hey everyone,

This may be a strange question...but we’re starting to purchase our gifts for our parents. My parents have contributed so much to our wedding and as a thank you I wanted to get my mom a set of diamond stud earrings, which she has always wanted. We were going to gift my fiancé’s mom a necklace or a bracelet. Is it rude to give my mom something so much nicer?...they have contributed way more. Not that I’m asking for more from his parents, I am so grateful for all they have done as well. I thought about gifting my mom hers privately, but then I don’t want a discussion about what the other got (which probably won’t happen, but who knows)...Are you getting the moms the same gift?...Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Dierdra, on April 20, 2020 at 4:01 AM

Master July 2021
Rebelle Fleur · on April 19, 2020 at 3:06 PM
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I doubt they’ll compare gifts. I’m sure they’ll be appreciative of anything you gift them.
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Anais · on April 19, 2020 at 3:24 PM
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I doubt they'll compare gifts. I'd recommend writing each a super nice, sentimental thank you card along with the gift, that tends to mean more to parents and they might pay more attention to your sweet words than whoever got a more expensive present.
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on April 19, 2020 at 3:29 PM
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We are parents different gifts. For my I made a collage shaped like a heart with photos of my dad, brother, sister, her, and I. I gave my dad a travel coffee mug with father of the bride written on it and a pair of black socks - one sock said father of the bride and my wedding date and the other sock said of all of our walks together, this one is my favorite and he wore them on my wedding day. He gave his dad a framed photo of his brother, his dad, and him on a boating trip they took to Alaska. We gave his mom a framed engagement photo that we had specially taken for her which was with us standing on either side a tree. His mom had planted that tree in honor of her dad after he passed away. I gave my parents their gifts two days prior to the wedding at their house. We gave his mom her gift after our rehearsal dinner and we gave his dad his gift the morning after our wedding at breakfast. His dad didn't attend the rehearsal dinner and he didn't arrive early for the wedding so that was the only chance we really had to give him his gift.
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Amy · on April 19, 2020 at 5:43 PM
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My parents are contributing financially, as well as driving our things (destination wedding) and will help with a lot of the grunt work. My fiancé’s mother/stepfather are financially contributing as well. We are taking them all out for a very nice dinner 2 nights before the wedding so they can’t get to know one another and we can all spend time together. His dad/stepmom have not offered to help in any way and we have no plans to do anything extra for them at this time.

If there is something you want to spoil your mother with and you are able to, do it. I don’t think there would be a ‘comparison’ of gifts.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on April 20, 2020 at 1:10 AM
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I don’t think they’ll compare gifts either
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Dedicated June 2021
Camilla · on April 20, 2020 at 1:28 AM
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If you think they might compare then the chances are they will. Don’t start extra drama.
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Dierdra · on April 20, 2020 at 4:01 AM
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Usually when you do pictures getting ready there are special moments for the mother and daughter only. I would gift hers then and know that there is nothing wrong with gifting something like that to your mom. However maybe looking into something equally nice but different for his mother - or have him pick it out. There are also sentimental gifts you could lean towards. I am doing something similar. A sentimental gift has more meaning to my MIL and something nice for my mom that has meaning for us. Different isn't bad and on a wedding day mom's tend to be caught up in the joys of watching their children marry. Good luck and happy planning!
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