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Gifts for 'would-be' bridesmaids

Ashley, on August 21, 2019 at 5:45 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

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My fianceè and I had decided on our bridal parties before deciding to do a destination wedding where only immediate family was invited. My sister would have been my maid of honor so I plan on giving her a gift, and an officient gift. My best friend would have been my matron of honor so I will also be picking something out for her.
But, I'd like to get a little token for the girls I had chosen to be in my bridal party. Just to say "hey, I appreciate you and I hope you know this role would have been yours if I could have afforded to do a big wedding here and actually been able to invite people" (lol)
I know none of my friends would expect one and I thought it would be a nice surprise.
Yes anyone ever seen any "you were almost my bridesmaid" gifts? Should I go with a regular bridesmaid themed gift?
If you have anything negative to say about this, please keep it to yourself. I'm not asking for opinions, only suggestions. Thanks!

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Latest activity by Tiffani, on August 22, 2019 at 5:43 PM

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Allie · on August 21, 2019 at 6:00 PM
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Kind of, but it was just an unspoken thing that they would have been my bridesmaids but we decided to not have a bridal party. I didn't make a big deal out of it but they are still getting ready with me and getting small gifts. Are these people invited to the wedding or no?
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Ashley · on August 21, 2019 at 6:02 PM
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No one besides immediate family will be at the wedding. We are having a celebration back home after we return, and that's what all our friends and other family are invited to
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Kpar · on August 21, 2019 at 6:16 PM
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Maybe get them a souvenir from your destination
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Yam · on August 21, 2019 at 7:49 PM
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I think getting them would-be gifts, no matter how much you mean well could sting a little. It’s just a reminder they can’t come to your wedding.
You seem very sweet to be thinking of everybody but this just isn’t a good idea. If you want to do something nice for your girls, why not treat them to a spa day for all of you? Have a fun day together, have lunch, make memories and get them excited about the reception and how much fun you’ll all have!
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Ashley · on August 21, 2019 at 9:44 PM
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I can't do a spa day because several of them live out of state or hours away from me :/
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Yam · on August 21, 2019 at 9:51 PM
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Hmm. You could do gifts because you love them but I’d leave out the bridesmaid mention, just thank them for being there for you in the past and for being there for you as you become a wife. Really it’s a lovely gesture. I hope you guys have a lot of fun together!
Do you know what each girl likes? Get them gifts suited to their tastes.
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Andie · on August 22, 2019 at 2:01 AM
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This is a really good suggestion, it removes the awkwardness of the “almost bridesmaid” situation and just acknowledges their friendship and support... Which I believe is your intention anyways.
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Ivy ORP · on August 22, 2019 at 2:26 PM
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Instead of would-be bridesmaids, what about going with the bride tribe theme. I know my closest friends call each other our tribe. I agree with a previous poster that the almost part might sting a bit. I would think any token you come up will mean something to them though.
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Tiffani · on August 22, 2019 at 5:43 PM
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Thats a great idea!! I was thinking something similar. Even if they cant be at places for that stuff maybe make a group text with all of them to send ideas and talk to. I would send out a message to them and share your wedding plans and say you couldnt do it without their help. Like ask them to help you plan, pick out a dress, etc so they are still included I know I text my girl gang (Our group message is called Loves) all the time to share things with them about wedding planning! They always give me the best ideas.. and honest feedback lol

Then maybe get them all a "thank you" gift after and give it to them at the at home celebration
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