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Gifts for the wedding party

Watts, on September 11, 2019 at 1:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18

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I know traditionally it's important to give the wedding party gifts. We feel cheap because it's not really in our budget due to recent events. We found super cute shot glasses and a set of "love bird" salt and pepper shakers that we thought would be cute. But is that a crappy gift? We bought all their attire, and none of them are helping with planning or anything, so they aren't losing money on the wedding. What are you giving your wedding party?

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MD · on September 11, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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We were fortunate to have help financially for our wedding, so we were able to spend a little bit more for our bridal party. But I think regardless of how much you spend, I would just focus on getting them something you truly think they will use in the future. And you don't have to get each person the same thing, you could always change it up!
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Sara · on September 11, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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I think it's a little bit of a know-your-crowd kind of deal - I know I'd get use out of a shot glass, but not so much out of salt and pepper shakers. That being said, if you're covering their attire, I think small gifts like this are totally fine. I'd also write each of them a note thanking them for being in your wedding party.
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Destiny · on September 11, 2019 at 1:41 PM
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Me and my fiancée aren't doing a wedding party, but if we had it would have been coffee gift cards for the bridesmaids and a custom cup for the best man n some beer lol
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Watts · on September 11, 2019 at 1:42 PM
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That's true, I was worried about someone liking someone else's more and feeling hurt. But I guess they aren't children and can handle their emotions. I work with children so I find myself forgetting the difference in emotional reactions with adults lol.
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Formerbride · on September 11, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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I think a small gift is totally fine if you paid for their attire. I would rather have someone pay for my dress than give me a gift lol. Give them the shot glass and a heartfelt card!
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Mrsbdg · on September 11, 2019 at 1:50 PM
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I think it’d be nice to get the shot glasses and a nice card. Buying their attire was very kind and I think they’ll understand
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 11, 2019 at 1:52 PM
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The 🕺🏼s are getting 🧦, Ties, Cuff Links, and monogrammed: Shirts and Toiletry 👝with Travel size Toiletries.

The 💃s are getting Wind Chimes, Photo Albums, (diy’d) Trinket Trays, Bath stuff, and Slippers (from Victoria’s Secret) in a Tote Bag.
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 11, 2019 at 1:53 PM
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Oh, I forgot the personalized Water Bottles for the 💃s too.
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MrsD · on September 11, 2019 at 2:18 PM
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I think any gift is better than no gift. How much do the shot glasses & salt/pepper shakers cost together? I found some good deals for gifts for my bridesmaids. I got them several gifts, but on Black Friday I ordered each bridesmaid a personalized tote for $5 each. I also got each girl a cute pair of socks with wine glasses on them for $1 each. Old Navy has sales on pajamas & socks & flip flops for under $5 (sometimes $1) a pair. The Dollar Tree/Store sells candy & coffee mugs & picture frames & random things like that for $1 too. I'd include a thank you note to each person, that's a nice personal touch too.
We spent quite a bit on our bridesmaids & groomsmen & parents, but we had a higher budget.
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Melle · on September 11, 2019 at 2:20 PM
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I think those gifts sound fine! Honestly I think even a handwritten heart felt thank you note to them is nice just to show your appreciation
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Cher Horowitz · on September 11, 2019 at 2:23 PM
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Those sound really cute! I'm giving my bridal party Bath and Body Works gift baskets!
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Future Mrs Wilson · on September 11, 2019 at 2:42 PM
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A candle
A tshirt for the day of
Flip flops
Personalized tote bags
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Megan · on September 11, 2019 at 2:55 PM
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I bought each one of my bridesmaids comfy shoes for the reception. I'm already asking so much of them (1 is flying in to be here for me and one is driving 300 miles). I'm also buying plain water tumblers and customizing them myself.
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Ivy ORP · on September 11, 2019 at 3:03 PM
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If you paid for the attire then I think that is cute. My FW asked our sons to be best men. I got my son a monogrammed wallet and flask etched with a symbol from one of his favorite shows. She is working on her gift for her son. We also didn't ask them to buy anything special but have purchased the items we specifically want them to wear.
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Catherine · on September 11, 2019 at 3:19 PM
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I think purchasing their attire is a great gift. Most don't do that. Anything else I'm sure they would be appreciative - my cousin got us all handkerchiefs and robes along with a bracelet.
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Judith · on September 11, 2019 at 3:29 PM
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It is necessary that you write a letter thanking each one. Gifts are nice if you have the money, but are not necessary. Paying for their clothing , so it cost little to be in your wedding party, was a nice gesture.
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Courtney · on September 11, 2019 at 8:35 PM
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Covering their attire is more than enough. But you can't go wrong with a heartfelt note and something small like their favorite candies.
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Lady · on September 13, 2019 at 10:04 AM
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I don't think the salt and pepper shakers or shot glasses would be a good gift, personally. In your case, i'd probably get them all a $10ish bottle of wine or 6 pack of beer, and write a heartfelt thank you note.
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