Gifts for the couple

Typically gifts are given at both the shower and the wedding. Just curious, is it a bridal shower or a couples shower? Not that it matters, but it will have an effect on your gift.

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I received the invitation in a group chat with the bride and groom - the invitation says "Wedding Shower". Because it didn't say "Bridal Shower", I asked if the event was coed or just females (my FH is a groomsmen of the groom & he didn't get an invitation so I wanted to double check) - they said it was just females. So... I'm not sure if it's a bridal shower and only the bride will be there and they just called it a "wedding shower" or if both the groom and bride are going to be there and that's why they called it a "wedding shower"??

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Oh yes I would think that it's just a bridal shower and maybe the groom will pop up towards the end? But anyways, I say gift for both events.

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How much would you spend for each?

I would gift for both. The last couple weddings I went to, I gifted off the registry for the shower and gave money for the wedding (they both had cash/honeymoon funds attached to their registry), but you certainly don't have to do it that way. Showers typically include gift opening so I like to have a physical gift to bring. I usually shoot for around a $50 gift for the shower and $100-200 for the wedding, but give whatever is comfortable for your budget.

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Thank you - this is very helpful!! Appreciate you I like the idea of giving a physical gift they can unwrap too! Thanks!

I agree with above. Physical gift for shower although if there isn’t anything left on the registry you like do not be afraid to give toward that honeymoon fund. A lot of couples (especially who own a home and have essentials) would rather the help toward that.


Cash/check for the wedding.

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I would do around $50 for the wedding shower and whatever you can afford and feel comfortable with for the wedding. ($100-$300 depending on how close we are for me)