Our church has two pianists who regularly play for Mass; one is also the music coordinator, and usually people who want a pianist for their wedding will fill out paperwork that includes the cost of using the church and also another fee if you want her to play for your wedding. However, the other pianist was my grade school choir director and so I've asked her to play for my wedding. I feel like it would be weird to pay her, but would I look like a cheapskate just to give her a gift? And what would be an appropriate/nice gift?
We have also asked a friend to be our cantor (singer) at the wedding. I know people sometimes hire one, but again I think it's more appropriate to just give her a gift. What would be a good gift?
Thanks!
