Gifts for people throwing my shower??

Well I am giving my BM's their gifts to be worn at rehearsal (tshirt) and wedding (necklace) which is going into a personalized bag. This bag will be given to them at the wedding.

I have gotten my BMs several gifts that will be given at the rehearsal, but the thread that I read said that I had to get them something BESIDES that for throwing the shower. I kinda thought it was ridiculous!

I've never heard of this, and was not planning on getting anybody gifts. The only gifts given will be to me at my shower and maybe party favors (that is hope to the girls throwing my shower though). lol

I have no idea, were you reading my thread?? Because I'm at a total loss but what I'm going to do is get the totes with emergency things in them leading up to the wedding (2 months!!) & then they can use it later ie. lunch bag, shopping bag, etc.

Then at the rehearsal dinner I'll probably get them something smaller, not sure what though.

Yeah, I had read your thread and was thinking that people were saying that its typical to get them a gift outside of their bridesmaids gifts. So you're actually just spreading out your bridesmaid gifts?

If you're not supposed to get them anything for throwing you a shower I'd really like to know now since

1. I'm short on cash

2. I can save up for something bigger later on

I am erring on the side of caution and plan to give something small - likely a potted gerber daisy - to the hosts of my showers, since they are giving their time and their home to the event.

I think it depends on the curcumstances. My MOH is planning one of my showers but her mother, (my aunt), is hosting the event at her house. Therefore I want to take a gift to them. The other shower is for FS's side of the family and thrown by his sister and sister-in-law - also not BMs - so it seems right to give them a gift too. If you are having one shower, hosted by BMs only, then I suppose their final thank you gift given at the rehearsal would actually cover the shower too.

Yup, exactly. The totes I'm looking at (see my other thread):

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/should-click-the-button/4c3b8eb3ff8079c0.html

are somewhat on the pricier side some may say but others my say it's decent. I would be getting 4 & the price would be ~$20ish/tote (includes 15% discount). But like I say, the seller says... they're reusable, washable & they can be used for a bunch of things. Personally i think they look cuter than a basic canvas tote but that's JMO.

For their actual MatronOH, Bridesmaid & MOB gifts this is what I'm thinking:

MatronOH: a picture of her & I from a trip to San Fransisco we went on YEARS ago & jewelry

BMs: not sure yet even though they're my sisters, lol

My mom: a then & now frame (baby picture on 1 side, bridal picture on the other)... look at picture.

So in my case, i was planning on giving them their gifts at the shower instead of rehearsal bc it is jewelry for the wedding (dont want them to go get something) and they have some wedding related things like "bridesmaid" undies ....is is ok to give their gifts at the shower instead of rehearsal? and then as far as my shower, fh gave moh money for shower and she bought whatever was needs...the bm's are doing nothing but bring a dish...do I just get my MOH a gift for the shower seperate from her other stuff and not the bm's since they didnt do anything..or just get them all something small?

Not sure if this helps... But I found this on another site.

"Q: My mother's friend is throwing my bridal shower. Should I bring a hostess gift?

A: A nice, handwritten thank-you note would be perfectly acceptable, but many brides also choose to show their gratitude with a small gift. Some ideas: a flower arrangement, a box of homemade treats, or a lunch out on the town."

Hmmmm, good ideas. i do have another problem that is super confusing for me:

1. my shower is being held at my parent's house

2. i think my matronOH is setting everything up (not sure though)

thus I don't know who the hostess is. So frustrating when you don't know the etiquette of something.

Kinda random question... does anyone know how long it takes to receive totes from the Knot? I see they are on sale, and my bridal shower is next weekend. Based on this and some other threads, I think I am going to get my mom and sister (hosts) a tote each and fill it with some emergency supplies to bring the day of the wedding. It's useful and I wanted to do something like that but not for their gifts I give at the rehearsal dinner.

Maybe at least I could rush deliver them? Ugh. wish I had thought of this sooner..

Personally I think that it's possible to go overboard on gifting when a lovely card will do just fine. I know one person who was raving about all her gifts to her wedding party, parents, grandparents, friends, etc, she pretty much gave a give to everyone for going to her wedding.