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Gifts for Future Father in law

Jennifer, on August 26, 2019 at 8:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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So my FH’s father is flaky and isn’t the best dad. Over the last 4 years I can count the number of times he has seen his son. Now that he is getting married he still isn’t involved all that much.
i know that it is tradition the give the parents a gift but does that mean I have to get him one too.
ps. He has not contributed in any sort of way, just wants certain guest invited and a particular beer.

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Latest activity by Renee, on August 28, 2019 at 2:22 AM

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Abby · on August 26, 2019 at 8:28 PM
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I personally would not spend anymore money getting him anything. If he hasn’t been there I don’t think he needs anything.
I hope this helps 😊
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Vanessa · on August 26, 2019 at 9:30 PM
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I am in the same boat. I won’t be purchasing my fiancé’s husband a gift for the wedding. He hasn’t contributed or even offered to. Out of sight, out of mind.
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Devoted January 2022
Jess · on August 27, 2019 at 9:20 AM
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I wouldn’t bother
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Hannah · on August 27, 2019 at 9:24 AM
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The gift is usually a thank you for helping with the wedding (either monetarily, emotionally, or both). If he has not contributed time, money, or any sort of effort at all, you don't need to get him a gift.
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Yoice · on August 27, 2019 at 9:30 AM
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It is tradition to gift the parents or those that help you a nice as appreciation. In this case I don’t think a gift is need it.
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Ivy ORP · on August 27, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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My FW's dad may not be there due to health reasons, but their relationship is strained anyway. We actually decided to not focus on gifts for our parents at the wedding since they are older and in the case of my parents, just downsized so aren't really into more stuff. I'm now planning to send wedding albums to everyone in the family.
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Renee · on August 28, 2019 at 2:22 AM
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My mom isn't really around much but we're still getting her something small. Only because we'll be handing out gifts at the rehearsal dinner and I don't want to give everyone else something and not her. It'll be small and not simple, nothing personalized like other's presents. Haven't figured out what to get yet but maybe a small gift basket with lotions and soaps? Her favorite scent is vanilla so it's easy to find.
If he's not around while you give out your gifts, I wouldn't stress getting him anything.
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