Gifts for ceremony-only invite?

I would definitely feel like they were just after a gift.

Unacceptable. You're friend is having a tiered wedding and it's extremely rude...and now exponentially rude that she expects a gift too! (not to mention gift and registries should never be mentioned in a wedding invitation to begin with) I would 100% decline and not send a gift. And not feel an ounce bad about it.

ETA: she's basically telling you "I"m too cheap to pay for your dinner and drinks, so you can't come to my reception but don't forget to bring me a gift for my super duper special day!" No.

Unacceptable and extremely rude. I would neither attend nor send a gift. I don't see how this could come off as anything other than super gift grabby. Yuck!

Hm, gift grabby definitely. She can't afford to have everyone for the dinner/reception, but still wants gifts from you. Like PPs said, it's not worth it to go.

Extremely rude. I wouldn't go, wouldn't bring a gift and tell her what she is doing is rude AF. I'm sure you're not the only person invited who feels this way.

All the ewwwws.

Um, rude much.

I wouldn't go.

It totally sounds like they are after a gift only. i agree with @SummerS. it definitely sounds like they are saying exactly what she said. that's really rude

Gift Grabby, that would be a hard no for me.

Don't go, don't send a gift. Super rude.

VERY rude. Not inviting you to the reception is rude and putting a gift registry in anyone's invitation is rude. Yeesh.

Where is the reception? Would it be at the same place after the ceremony tho? That's interesting

Your friend is being extremely rude and gift grabby.

So rude. No gift.

Totally rude. It's one thing to send ceremony only invites. It's another to expect thkse only coming to the ceremony to bring a gift? Insane.

The reception will be held at a different location. The ceremony is a traditional church ceremony (and I'm sure her entire church will be invited). I'm just confused as to why she made a big deal about getting addresses and having envelopes/ceremony-only invitations printed? Btw we also don't live in the same country and after reading your responses, I'm certainly not flying overseas for a 20 min ceremony. Nor will I be parting with money to get her a gift!

I would send your regrets and this:

I can see getting a reception only invite, if it was a more intimate ceremony...but ceremony only! What a rip off! Especially with them letting you know where they are registered. Holy smokes, gift grabbers galore.

So rude...I wouldn't go nor give anything

My initial thought is to be rude and petty in return! My butt would go to the ceremony IF I had nothing better to do AND refuse to bring a gift on top of it. But only if there is no costly travel involved. Then the mature side would kick in and mail the RSVP declining her invitation and still NO gift! Dare that tacky bride to ask me any questions about it too! The nerve of some people!

I wouldn't go nor would I send a gift! Sorry that is super rude