Gifts delivered to Bride & Groom ahead of time

I am assuming since your wedding isn't until October that you aren't sending wedding invitations until mid-August. Therefore, I would think the gifts you are currently receiving are for the shower. Either way, you would still send a thank you card and just say "Thank you for the_____. We were thrilled to receive it and we'll think of you every we use it.". You don't need to differentiate In the thank you card what event it was for.

View Quoted Comment We did send out both invitations because the wedding is located out of town and many guests are traveling to attend.

We sent out our invitations to both too because the wedding is October 3rd and many etiquette articles said 8-12 weeks. But the biggest issue for me is why does it matter if the gift is for Show or wedding? The gift is for the couple. For you and your spouse. And you want to thank the giver with a card. Help me understand your question. 😁

Wait...if it is for the shower then are we supposed to take them to the shower? Now I'm confused😂😂

You should open them immediately and send thank you cards. There are lots of reasons for this - they need to know the gift has been received or not so they can work with the vendor if it bas been lost or stolen before delivery, and you need to make sure it’s in good condition so that any damage can be addressed immediately.
If the person hasn’t indicated if it’s a shower vs wedding gift, they aren’t going to be upset that you didn’t specify that in the thank you note.

View Quoted Comment This is what I was also confused about. If it is a shower gift do you bring it to open at the shower?

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Nope! I received a shower gift in advance because I live out of town from where the shower was being held and the sender didn't know if I was driving or flying in for the event, so she sent it early. People will want to know that you received the package, so open it and send a thank you card ASAP!

View Quoted Comment That part I don't know about. I would open them all and send out a thank you card asap. Sorry I couldn't help. 😳

I say open them as you receive them so your guests know you've gotten their gift. Then write and send a thank you note asap.

You can open and send the thank you immediately. You do not need to physically take the gift to the shower, but assuming you are opening others’ gifts at the shower, I would quickly announce a little thank you to so-and-so, as they gifted you with ___ that was sent directly to your home.

Since showers vary from 2 to 16 weeks, and only the closest people should receive a shower invitation ( as a second gift) the only 2 ways to know are if the sender has it labeled " wait to open at shower" or if it arrives very early at the couple's home. At this point, just to ask, shower or not, let's the sender know it did arrive with no sound of broken glass.