Gifts before bridal shower etiquette

Good question, following!

I would wait and see if they RSVP and maybe don't send a thank you until after the shower.

Send a thank you note, don't open it until after the wedding (I read somewhere that you don't open the shower/wedding gifts until after the wedding in case the wedding is postponed or canceled and you have to return the gift; you already know what it is since it's on your registry), and I don't think you need to bring the gift physically to the shower since they mailed it to you.

I would at least unwrap it and send a thank you note asap.

I got a couple gifts before my shower. One person had just moved to NJ and I knew she couldn't come but told me to open the gift. The other ones I got were from guests that did come. (And also brought another gift to the shower). My FH and i opened the gifts when we got them and I sent a thank you note the following week after my shower to everyone.

Unwrap and send a thank you as soon as possible

@Yoomie, that doesn't make any sense. You can't send a thank you note without opening it. Checking the registry will only work if that's literally the ONLY present purchased off the registry, and even then -- how do you know the giver didn't go off-registry? And if you're not bringing the present to the shower, why wait to open it?

OP, just open it now and send a thank you note right away.

This happened a bit leading up to my shower (which was this passed Sunday). My mom brought them and had me open them there. I sent the thank you same time as all the others; I felt that would be ok because those who sent the gift knew when the shower was.

But sending a thank you earlier is ok too.

I had this same question. Ended up opening and sending a thank-you card right away. I didn't want the person thinking I didn't receive the gift, or that I forgot to thank them.

Open and send Thank You.

We received a few from our engagement party and just sent Thank You's out the next day.

Open it and mail the thank you now. Save yourself the writing later.

Don't wait to open it!

My shower is out of state so it didn't make sense to bring the gifts to it. I received three early registry items, opened them, took a picture of me holding them, and sent a thank you. The picture was just to cover my bases in case I was supposed to bring them to the shower cause I didn't find a definite answer haha

I would open it and send a thank you card. I've always heard that you should send a thank you as soon as you receive the gift so people know that you received it.

So our shower is in a completely different part of the country and we have about 6 boxes stacked on our living room. I think some people decided that even though they're going to the shower, it was easier on us to ship it right to Texas instead of having us figure out how to get everything back to TX from NY. I mentioned to my mom (who is throwing the shower) that we got some deliveries and she told me not to open them, but to wait until the shower because she's done this to women before - shipped the gift to their house, gone to the shower and given a card with a picture of the gift in it, and gotten mad when it wasn't a surprise and the bride mentioned already using the gift l. She has very strong opinions on this, and I do not, so I'm just rolling with it since she's leading the shower show