Gifts and No Gifts from Wedding/thank Yous?

So glad you had such a great day! In regards to thank yous, I've read on these forums that you should send thank you to those who have gifts. You do not have to send a card to thank them for attending the wedding as the reception is a thank you for them attending. At least that is my understanding from reading these forums for the past 9 months or so 😂 I'm sure others will chime in too

Thank you cards are for gifts. The reception is the thank you to your guests for their attendance, no need to also send a card.

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I am open to all opinions. My concern is what if I do not send a thank you to everyone and by chance one of those that did not gift me, actually DID and the card got lost of misplaced? I do not want anyone to think we are not grateful lol. Yes, my wedding was A+ perfect. I wish I had 2 more hours to really talk to people and get more photos with guests. It really is a run-around for the bride and groom. I think we sat down together for our salad for 10 minutes and maybe 10 minutes for our dinner. We barely had any cocktail hour lol.. as expected- but we got the best gift of all- a lifetime together and half price appetizers in the bar downstairs from our apartment lmao

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Read my response to the first poster- I had a concern- though probably super unrealistic, but I am a little nutty lol

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This is one of my favorites

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View Quoted Comment Wow! This is an amazing shot 😍😍

View Quoted Comment I understand the concern, but there’s really no way to word a thank you note around a fear. “Thank you for your generous gift in case you gave us one and we lost it,” won’t work out well. I would trust that you didn’t misplace anything. Some people just don’t gift and that’s okay. Sending them a note would seem more like a call out to me than anything else.

Thank yous are for gifts and money. Is there a reason you think something went missing? Because if so you can handle that as it comes up. If there isn't a reason to think something went missing then you just need to relax.

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We missed about 30 min of our wedding to get these pics lol. Worth it.

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Yeah? So no card at all then? I feel rude not thanking them for coming at all, but then again what do I know! lol

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t send a card. What would you even say? “Thanks for coming” is going to come off more like “thanks for showing up since that’s all we have to thank you for.”

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LOl I am a wordy person. My vows were forever long. I would have thanked them for coming and talked about how I loved spending time with all my loved one -that we are grateful for their attendance and celebrating our marriage with us. No? Lol!

Thank you cards are for gifts. We had 4 people that did not give us a gift and are completely find with that. We sent thank cards to everyone who got us a gift and just are overall thankful for all of our friends and family that attended gift or not.

View Quoted Comment It sounds like you’re really set on sending thank you cards for those who didn’t bring gifts, so go for it! Maybe your crowd will receive it better than others.

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Ok. I just was not sure if it was rude if they did not hear from you after the wedding in any aspect, gift or not. We are too. We were a little taken aback by like 2 of the 6 people we did not get a card from, but the others not so much bc they are friends and not super close ones. Overall we were just grateful to have everyone in attendance. All of these people bring a lot of light to our lives. I just was not sure how to respond in general bc I hear conflicting suggestions

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Not set lol but just feel like someone might be offended by not hearing back after our wedding? Im just a paranoid person. You are right though. If we did not receive a card or a gift it is probably not necessary. We are going to send one, in the least, to our party regardless. They put forth a lot of effort and money with tux rentals, dresses, hair, makeup, bachelorette and bachelor parties and hotel room stays.

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I understand. My husband and I attended a wedding last year brought a gift and did not receive a thank you card. It was a little sad but I understand that life gets away from people at times.

View Quoted Comment This is all part of the game. If someone *doesnt* hear from you, they’re more inclined to “check in” , with a quick “hey just wanted to make sure you got my gift?” ....sure if I do that it may come off as passive aggressive “where’s my thank you card” haha but from my perspective : either they kind of deserve it OR they truly didn’t get it and we should sort it out !