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Tori
Beginner August 2020

Gifted old items we both don't want

Tori, on February 11, 2020 at 10:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
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Okay, so.. my groom and I are trying to figure out how to handle this. His mother gifted us a lot of items that are meant for a wedding, but they are not in great condition and even if they were they do not fit in. we are having a Hawaiian/ tropical and modern styled wedding. While we are thankful for them all, we are very much on the same page and do not want to use any of the items. We do not expect her to give a new gift... But aren't sure how to go about telling her kindly these items will not be at our special day.
Anyone else been through this? How did you handle it? Thanks in advance.Gifted old items we both don't want 1


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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Super January 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Just tell her you already have these items selected and you appreciate the gesture and donate it to someone you know who is getting married and on a tight budget.
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  • Emily
    Devoted September 2020
    Emily ·
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    I totally get that! My FMIL is buying us things a thrift store for our wedding and all things have been used or don’t match our style. She bought us a guest book that was half used!


    I just told her that I appreciate it but we have these items already! I had to mention to FMIL that she doesn’t have to buy things and if she wants to to run it buy me or FH so she’s not wasting her money :/
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  • L
    Super May 2020
    Leslie ·
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    You might be able to modify some (the cake cutter and the glasses) for your taste but I agree with PP tell you already have selected.

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  • Tori
    Beginner August 2020
    Tori ·
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    Thanks guys! We called her and talked. How do I delete this? Lol
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  • Kendra
    Devoted August 2020
    Kendra ·
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    You can't unfortunately Smiley sad

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  • Sherry
    Rockstar September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    I agree that as they are now, they do not fit the look you are going for but they aren't a complete loss either. You could so easily re-do them to make them work for you. Take off those ribbon/flower things and hot glue some hibiscus flowers or some other tropical flower on them. Same for the flutes. The garters can be changed up with new flowers and ribbon and use one of them for the garter toss. The pillow, add some flowers, ribbon, leaves etc to it. However, if you just don't want to use any of it regardless, I would just donate it. She probably won't even notice and if she does, just say how much you appreciated them but they just didn't fit the vision you both had for your wedding day.


    P.S. WW doesn't allow deleting, you are stuck in the WW world forever! lol

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