Gift Registry - Need Help Too Humble

Just don't register anywhere. If people want to gift you something, they will either pick something out on their own, or they will gift cash. You don't HAVE to have a registry. The ladies on here are not advocates of Honeyfunds, so please don't take it personal if some of the comments are a little harsh. They all really mean well and are just trying to help. If I were you, I just wouldn't have a registry.

No honeyfund. No asking for money.

Make a small registry; new towels, a Cuisinart, donation sites if you want, but if it's small your friends will get the idea. They are adults. They know how to write a check.

Just don't. People will give you money. Honeyfund a are tacky and they take money from you and lie to your guests. Which is no fun for anyone.

Just make a registry. We were in a similar situation -- two households, older, very established, felt uncomfortable with gifts. Honeyfunds are gross and so is any mention of gifts. So just register for things that might replace or upgrade what you have and if someone asks, you tell them where you registered.

One of guests gave a donation to charity in our name as a wedding gift. It was really sweet and we appreciated it.

That's it. That's all you can do.

We are in a similar situation and we felt uncomfortable asking for gifts. But people have been asking us about the registry and we needed to upgrade a few things. It was actually really fun. We went to bed bath and beyond and had a blast with the scanner. We chose BBB because you can use the coupons there and its good for 2 years, plus they offer you 20% off after your wedding so you can buy whatever you wanted but didn't get at a discount.

Thanks ladies, i guess.. i never even heard of a "honeyfund" before... i did not know such a word existed. I'll stick to my original idea of donations ... that is what would make us the happiest afterall. And it is our wedding and our commitment to each other.... I'll keep praying for guidance in unfamiliar territory. ~ discouraged

Asking for donations isn't appropriate, either. You are welcome to take cash gifts you receive and donate them as you please. See what Celia said about a small registry.

Adults know how to write a check, they don't need to be told how to spend the money. Once it is yours you can do with it as you please.

There is no reason to be discouraged. Just make a small registry and donate the cash you get yourself.