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Kelsey
VIP September 2020

Gift question

Kelsey, on May 5, 2020 at 12:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

My shower is currently planned for June 6th, I know it could possibly change and we have a back up date already planned. My FIL's sent a gift to us from New York since they won't be able to make it. My FH got it today, he is home right now due his work being closed. Do I send a thank you note right away or do I wait till the shower? I told my FH to at least text his aunt to let her know it arrived (it's a pricier Kitchen Aid stand mixer so I thought we should let her know it arrived safely). Is that ok to do as well? For me that's what I would want especially since it's a more expensive item.


Also funny side note: On the tag from Target everyone "signed" it, we have no clue who one person is. We stalked everyone on Facebook trying to figure it out. We have to call my FFIL to find out who it is lol.

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Latest activity by Anna, on May 6, 2020 at 10:49 PM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Since she won’t be making it to the shower I’d sent her a thank you note right away. And it makes you feel good to receive good news in the mail during these times.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You should send a thank you note ASAP.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Thanks ladies!! Appreciate it!

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I would send the thank you note now.

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    You should always send thank you notes as soon as you get the gift. This is also helpful for you since you then don't need to write them all out at once.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    If you're close with your FILs you could just text them the same question - that their shower gift arrived, and should you open it now or wait? In general I'm also on team "send the thank you note right after delivery" - because then you won't forget and your guest gets confirmation you received it!


    And I love the mystery signature! 😂

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Thanks! We are planning on doing the bingo game at the shower so I almost wanted to wait and my FH said he would wrap it quick. But I will send them a thank you note right away. I spent my lunch break trying to figure who Robin is. My FH and I finally have decided it's Robin from "How I Met Your Mother" lol.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Always send thank you notes right away! It’s better manners and easier for you so you won’t have to do them all at once!
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    Judith ·
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    Send the thank you note now. But by phone or text, inquire who this person is. She may be a SO of someone whom you are inviting, who will expect her to get an invitation.
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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    You can open it now and send the thank you card right away.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    I sent a thank you this morning. My mom wants me to bring the gift with me to the shower, I understand why. But the mixer is huge; so since this isn't something I want to argue about would a good compromise be to take a picture of the gift, frame it and take it with? You can tell if this sounds dumb too.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    I would leave the gift at home and not do a picture. Neither make much sense to me. Your mom will survive. The only gifts that should be at the shower are the gifts received at the shower.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Open it, and send a thank you right away! Then start using it! Smiley smile

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  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
    Anna ·
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    Rule of thumb is to send a thank you card within a few weeks of receiving the item.
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