Gift of money if you're a bridesmaid - yes or no

No it's not being a bridesmaid you should expect any handouts from the bridal party. As on your day you will not be obligated to gift your bridesmaids it's payment enough your apart if their day.. but congrats

I have already told our wedding party members not to gift us for the wedding or the shower they are hosting. They are already spending more than enough on our wedding.

I didn't want nor expect gifts from those in our wedding. They had already paid for attire and most were also traveling.

I would give the couple a card with a heartfelt note for their happiness, how much they mean to you, etc. written inside. If you can afford something a year after their wedding date, a gift card to one of their favorite restaurants would be a great surprise for their first anniversary. It might help pay for their anniversary dinner!

No you don’t normally give the couple money if you’re apart of the wedding. We don’t want anything from our members. Their gift to us is standing with us on our day!!

Nope I didn't even want a gift from the BP at all. We urged them not to. A few gifted us cash or small gifts.

FH and I have been in a few weddings together. We always gift cash even tho we are in the wedding, we just feel that it’s the right thing to do (for us, not a general rule) although we know is not expected - . Now that I am the one getting married and showered and taken out for Bach I feel very bad about thinking of my MOH (she’s the one on my side, and he has only one on his too) gifting us even more $$, if she chooses to I’ll let her (like other people have accepted gifts coming from me before) but I will make a point to let her know we absolutely don’t expect gifts from them.

I think no. I've heard it from some people that if they are in the wedding, they give more money. But I have always thought that the people in the wedding don't give a gift, because their participation is the gift.

I’ve given a cash gift on the wedding day to every couple who’s wedding I was in. I didn’t feel right not giving them anything.

Honestly, I have been MOH in 4 weddings and a bridesmaid in 3, after all the $$ spent on dresses and parties - the couple gets a heartfelt card from me 😉 - you have to cut it off at some point...

I bought my friend part of her registry...some plates or something. I wondered that too.

I always have gotten a gift for every wedding I’ve been a part of.

If I can't buy the person I'm in a wedding for a real, personal present, I don't think I should be in their wedding. Please don't give your friend money.

I’ve been in two weddings - my sister and one of my BFF. My sister I got her probably $100 of stuff off her registry. For my friend, I got her a small thing off her registry and then two personalized gifts (an engraved cutting board and a personalized wine stopper - it went with her registry gift which was the art of cooking by Julia child). I say for weddings you are a part of, I would get them a small gift off their registry or something personalized. I would always give something because personally, I love giving gifts and I look at a wedding as a great chance to give someone a meaningful personalized gift (and then cash on top of that if I am not IN the wedding).

Every wedding I've been in (4) - I've given a boxed gift at the shower and a cash gift at the wedding. I would feel awkward not taking a gift to a wedding.

To me, I think it's a personal choice. While I dont expect my bridal party to gift us anything because of what they are already spending on attire, travel etc, if they do, then great. I am in my best friends wedding as a bridesmaid later this year. I have to travel down south for it and am hoping to keep expenses under 1k between me and my fh. She is having a shower up here I can attend and I will most likely get her a gift off her registry. As for the actual wedding, we will probably still gift her and her fh a card with a check, although it may not be as much as we would have given if the wedding was local or if I wasn't standing up in it. But that's just me!

I am getting all of them things from their registry for their shower. I was just asking about taking a card with money to the actual wedding!

Definitely not expected! They know you've spent a lot of money, they don't expect you to shell out more for a gift, being in the wedding party is the gift.

I think not. How much do we expect our nearest and dearest to spend because we decided to get married?