Gift giving etiquette for canceled wedding

It's really up to you. There is no requirement to give a gift regardless. It isn't so much that they canceled the wedding, but they opted to have a small one due to the current pandemic. If you would like to give them a gift to congratulate them on their marriage, go for it. If not, you don't have to.

I might send a card but not a gift. Unless you just really want to.

If it's a close friend and you want to get them something, do.
If they're a less close friend and you want to acknowledge the wedding, a card would be nice.
If you're just concerned about the etiquette, they technically didn't invite you to the wedding. They said they were going to, but they didn't; frankly, not alerting you to the change of plans was pretty rude.

If it was a close friend I absolutely would

Being a soon to be bride during this time has been somewhat of an emotional rollercoaster to say the least.. i would personally get them a gift and give it to them sooner than later

The question is, do you want to give them a gift? A gift is a pleasure, to give and receive and not an obligation.

My cousin just had this situation, and we're sending a card and money because they took their registry down. It's family, and I have no siblings so growing up he was the closest thing I had to a brother, so I'm sending one for that reason, but if it was a not-super-close friend I wouldn't do more than a card.

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I will probably send them a card and a small gift. They were my roommates in college but we have grown apart in the 5-6 years since college. I've been feeling that it was rude for them to not alert us to the change of plans, but I'm also trying to be understanding since it's uncharted territory for so many couples. I would still love to celebrate their wedding

If it's someone you are close with send a card or if you want a gift. If not I wouldn't worry about it.