Gift for dad?

We ( My Partner, & I ) aren’t saying You should give him a Gift, though We think that it would be a Good Idea if You Thanked Him If He does decide to show up.

We had People in the Situation that You posted.

They felt how You do, & They thought of a Way to do it.

They thought of some guidelines.

We think it may help You. Here they are.

We think it would be good to Thank him if:

1. If He/They arrives Pleasantly Early, or on Time.
( what it “Pleasantly Early? Ranges from 10 to 30 Mins Early. )

2. If There is a Dress Code with the Rehearsal Dinner/Wedding/Reception, etc., & What He/They are Wearing/has brought for Attire is Appropriate for it.

3. He/They aren’t High/Drunk/Intoxicated.

4. He/They behave in an Appropriate Manner/Keep an Appropriate Volume/Appropriate Words to Everyone.

( Please note: these 4 things listed above ALSO go for ANYONE He brings with HIM. That’s why it’s listed as He/They. Especially if You have Agreed that he may bring Someone. )

If He/Possibly They, Cover all 4 of these, then It would be a good Idea to Thank Him/Them.

Hope this helps!

There’s no earthly reason to buy that man a gift. Why would you? Just the fact of being your FH’s father doesn’t mean he’s owed a gift. Thank him for coming, of course, but I’d say that covers your duties to him.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Laura

We are getting the groomsmen custom beer mugs with their caricature on it. I also included my dad and FH's dad in those. FH's parents are also divorced and he isn't extremely close with his dad but we still wanted to get him something, regardless of whether he contributed financially. It sounds like your FH's father might be more absent so you could probably skip it. If anything else, you could have a generic gift ready like a nice bottle of liquor and some glasses or dress socks, knife, etc. If he isn't around at gift giving time, then just return it.