Getting Ready with the Family, but my fmil doesn't want to join us and i am slighlt upset. Am i over reacting?!?!?

My FMIL is choosing to stay at home to get ready.

I would let it go, maybe she wants you to enjoy your time with your girls alone? My mom didn't think I would want her to get ready with me due to being for the "young" people.

I wouldn't take it as a negative thing.

I'd let it slide. As long as there's no issue.

My FMIL said she would be getting ready in her hotel room as well. I feel it's because she may want to try to sneak in to see her 2 sons before the wedding to say some words or to share the moment with them. My FH is her first son to get married, (and I'm the first daughter) so it's a huge milestone for both families! I'll be getting ready with my sisters. My mom hasn't said anything and she's also avoiding the subject so I assume she might getting ready on her own so she can help my dad get ready.

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I haven't said anything and I wasn't planning on it, I just am more disappointed and I was excited to share that special moment with her.

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Yeah we are the same, both the first to get married on both sides of the family. Both my parents will be at the same location as me getting readym, but my FH will be getting ready at a different hotel than her with his groomsmen, so I am not too sure the reasoning or maybe there isn't one for her wanting to be seperate. Not too sure...

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Not sure then. Maybe she wants to just get ready at her own pace without worrying about others in the room?

Regardless I think it's fine if she didn't want to share that time with you. Your family & bridesmaids will be there which will still make the experience worth while. If she's anything like my mom, she probably enjoys her "me" time instead of having to deal with a bunch of females needing to share the bathroom or any available mirror in the room.

I don’t think it’s a big deal. My mom and stepmom both chose not to get ready with me (we did some posed getting ready photos at the venue). It wasn’t personal against me they were just more comfortable doing their own thing.

She’s probably more comfortable getting ready on her own than with all of your female relatives. I don’t see the problem.

I’d let it go.

My MIL got ready with DH, FIL, SIL, and the groom's party. Granted, they all got ready at *her house*, but still.

It was a very nice gesture on your part, but it's not a strange thing. She may not feel very comfortable about her body, or perhaps she's just an introvert who would feel very overwhelmed by other people.

I would let it go. She’s likely just more comfortable getting ready alone and I’m sure she’s going to want to see her son before the wedding. Don’t overthink it. Just enjoy your day!

My mom got ready at the hotel before they came to the venue. She doesn't do crowds so I wanted her to have that time before the chaos of the day. I don't know your FMIL, but it sounds like the room will be pretty full. is that something that might cause her anxiety or discomfort? I wouldn't take it personally, she may have valid reasons that have nothing to do with you.

My FMIL didn't get ready with us. I think it's not a big deal.