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Just Said Yes June 2022

Getting ready timelines

Meg, on May 10, 2022 at 1:18 AM Posted in Planning 7 4

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I am putting together the timeline for getting ready & am dealing with a sticky situation.

I made sure that my hair and make up was extended to my FMIL, especially as my FSIL is in the wedding. My FMIL was really adamant that she had a hair trial with my hair dresser leading up to the wedding. So I said, ok that’s fine - and booked one for her. Then she cancels it & decides that a friend of hers who is invited to the wedding will do her hair….who won’t be showing up until 12 pm . We’re doing our first look at 1:30, so she needs to be ready by 12 for pics with the guys getting ready. I expressed to her that the timeline is a bit stressful & asked that she use the hair dresser that I booked instead. But she wasn’t receptive.
Do I let this one go and hope for the best? Mind you were getting married 2.5 hours away from where a majority of our guests live…I’m just getting concerned of timing and logistics in the event something goes wrong.

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Latest activity by Grace, on May 11, 2022 at 10:22 AM

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JA · on May 10, 2022 at 6:07 AM
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You expressed your concerns and gave a solution. She's a grown up. As long as you told her clearly when and where she is expected to be it is all on her now. Not your fault if she doesn't show up (or doesn't have her hair done) for certain photos.

If you haven't already, I'd send the time/locations she needs to arrive places in an email or text so she can see it in writing. Then let her make her own choices
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Paige · on May 10, 2022 at 10:53 AM
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I'd just tell her she can have anyone do her hair so long as she's on-location and photo-ready when she's expected to be. If her friend is able to get there early enough then fine, but otherwise she'll either have to use your person or find someone else so she is ready to go on time. Like JA said, she's an adult and should be able to discern how to be ready on time.
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Mac · on May 11, 2022 at 9:53 AM
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I agree with JA & Paige. I would just let her know the time and say flat out, either you are here or you are not but we're not waiting on you for this. The fact that she's more worried about her hair than being able to calm at least SOME of your wedding day anxiety is a bit absurd.
Tell her that you love her, she will look beautiful no matter what, but at 12:00pm sharp you are having those photos taken and would love for her to be in them but understand if her hair is more important. I'm sure she'll make it in some of the reception photos!
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Grace · on May 11, 2022 at 10:22 AM
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This is not a hill to die on. Inform her of your timeline of events in writing and let her make the decission. It is up to her to get ready and be there on time if she is not going to use the vendors and schedule like the rest of your bridal party is. You can also talk to your photographer and make a contingency plan in case your MIL is late. If she misses the guys getting ready photos then that is on her, not you.
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