Getting my mom involved.

We did a thank you speech at our rehearsal dinner & reception. Both times, we called each parent out individually to thank them. My stepdad escorted my mom during the processional & recessional. She got ready with us in the morning & had a corsage. My husband danced with her during a slower song when all the other guests were dancing. She felt special!

Is it possible for both your parents to walk down the aisle with you?

We are doing an anniversary dance. My parents anniversary is the day after our wedding and our best friends is two days after. We are going to have the DJ announce the dance and say happy anniversary to both couples and invite all married couples to join in. I also think your mom would just be happy with getting ready with you and taking special pictures. I gave my mom a few things to make for us and asked her to make our cake. She is really crafty. She will also be getting ready with me and my girls.

View Quoted Comment I don’t know. My sister thinks it’d hurt my dad’s feelings and I do think that too and I don’t want that. I think my mom would probably agree too and would say no just for that reason.

Don’t go by how your sister thinks your dad will feel— go to the SOURCE. Have that conversation with your dad. I asked both my parents to walk me down the aisle and I’m SO glad I did— it was such a special moment for me, and I feel that they both deserve the honor! I was a little concerned that my dad might feel some kind of way not to be the only one, but I talked to him directly about what I wanted & why and before I had even gotten my whole thought about it he cut me off like “wow!! That’s an amazing idea! I’d be honored to share” basically, with the sentiment like ‘happy to share this just like we shared raising you’ — doesn’t hurt to have the conversation, at least.

Daughter is very close to both her dad and me. Daddy walked her down aisle (but daughter stopped and hugged me when she got to the altar), danced with her, and gave a welcome speech/toast on behalf of all four parents. Daughter and I were pretty much glued together all day (her decision) getting our hair & make-up done and getting ready, etc.. During the ceremony, the officiant mentioned each of us four parents very specifically in terms of things we've passed down to our kids. Also, they did a rose ceremony, where SIL gave me a long-stemmed rose and daughter gave on to MOG. Finally, daughter and I have a "special song" that means a lot to us; it's a fast, bouncing pop-song. Daughter had the DJ play it during the night, and as soon as it came on we went straight to each other and danced very joyfully to the song together. It wasn't "announced" as a mother-daughter song/dance, but it was clear it was "our song" and many of her girlfriends/BMs who I've known since they were children came and danced with us. (They also had an anniversary dance. FOB and I didn't "win," but we we "in" for a pretty long time....) I felt plenty appreciated and acknowledged. Maybe ask you mom if there is anything she'd like to do with you during the day.

My mom spent all morning getting ready with us in the bridal suite and I specifically requested our photographer do a formal photo of just the two of us. Both my parents walked me down the aisle together (parents are divorced) and I hugged both individually before she handed me over to my husband. I second the previous comments that you should have a conversation with your dad on how he would feel about it.

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This is basically what I will be doing with my mom.

My dad is no longer alive so my mom wants to walk me down, but our daughter really wants to also so I am going with out daughter so she can have a special role also.

My mom will be the only one in the room when I get my dress on and will be the one to do my jewelry etc. She will get a corsage and now I am thinking I love the rose ceremony thing so I may add that

What about having the mom's light a unity candle or there is a rose ceremony where the bride and groom give each mother a rose during the ceremony? For our wedding, both moms were escorted dowb the aisle at the start of the ceremony. We also had both sets of parents announced into the reception. My mom also got ready with us and I bought her a robe to wear like the robes the bridesmaids, flower girls and I wore. Both moms also got corsages.

I also had my parents wedding song played which was special to them since they cancelled their wedding and eloped so it was the first day they actually got to dance to their wedding song.

So, my mom and I are really close as well, and since I’ll be walking myself down.. I’m doing a mother-daughter dance for her.

What I will be doing is have a special rose with ribbon in my bouquet. At the end of the aisle I’m going to pull it out and give it to my mom with a kiss on the cheek.

I think it’s simple but sweet!

Some people have both parents walk them (‘per common in Jewish ceremonies) but for me this is a dad daughter moment if dad and daughter are close and I am definitely a daddy’s girl. My parents are paying for a good chunk of the wedding and have been married 35 years so I will certainly find a way to honor that and spent some QT with my mom. I would have her read something but she’s a crier so I nixed that idea 😂

I am having both parents walk me down the aisle. If my dad is offended, he has not expressed it and my mom is so excited. She will also spend the day getting ready with us, including hair and makeup. We haven't gotten far enough into planning to determine whether she will give any kind of speech. If your mom doesn't feel comfortable speaking, you could do a dance together - maybe even a fun choreographed dance if she's willing. Or you could do a general tribute to your parents like a photo table.

Here's a few unique ideas that celebrate her without taking the traditional roles away from your dad.
If you do a unity candle , could your mom be the one to come up and light the candle that you are holding to light the unity candle?
So, after the father daughter dance, could you have a special Mother and Father dance where your parents are dancing together and it is planned ahead of time for your groom to cut in and dance with your mom, as a way of saying she is now like his mother.

I dont know that this will help, but I plan on having my mom and dad walk me down the aisle.
My dad traveled a lot when I was a kid, so my mom and he parents raised me. He wasnt a deadbeat, just travelled.

Also, I can't be left alone with my father when I'm stressed. It's just an explosion waiting to happen

My daughter asked me to do a reading at her wedding. I was also included in all the getting ready stuff. I helped her plan the wedding (she called me her wedding planner). She considered having me be her MOH, but knew I would like being MOB best, and she was right!