Getting married soon to a very shy guy

Small wedding, immediate family and best friends only.

Don't have a big wedding... just get married with a couple people or just the two of you.

What Robin said

Just immediate family he's comfortable with, go somewhere special privately to get married.

Have a small wedding?

Elope?

Destination wedding- go somewhere you both want to go and only have a small group of family and friends go with you

My FH is the same way, but we're inviting around 180 people (he has a huge family...). Small things that can make him feel more comfortable even if you have to have a bigger wedding:

First Look - This would give you both an intimate moment before the ceremony to spend time with each other without everyone watching you. Bonus: He'll feel less nervous when you walk down the aisle with all of those people watching him because he's already shared that moment with you!

Sweetheart Table - This will give you both a chance to spend a little bit of time together one-on-one instead of at a potentially crowded table with the bridal party.

Enlist his guys - Will he be having groomsmen? Enlist them to make sure your FH is having a good time. If he's surrounded by the people he's most comfortable with, he'll probably feel better.

Most importantly, I'd say that whatever you both decide, be sure to talk about expectations beforehand. The fewer the surprises the day-of for a shy guy, the better.

I'm counting on the first look to help with my extreme anxiety. Also mimosas while the bridal party gets ready. And I'll take my klonopin. Ask him if there are things you can do to make him feel better. And write him a sweet note the night before or morning of for him to read and think of you.

I'm the one with anxiety so we're keeping it intimate with twenty to thirty of our closest friends and family.

Small intimate wedding is a must.

Maybe instead of a sweetheart table, do a kings table. However, I wouldn't put it on display. A kings table will allow you to sit with close friends, family, and their SOs, so he wouldn't feel like all eyes were on him.

My guy is semi-shy as well. Our wedding isn't huge, about 120 guests total. We're not doing a first look. We are doing a sweetheart table & we eliminated the mother/son dance cause he & his mother are both very shy & being in the spotlight isn't a good time for them. He's going to ask his mom to dance during any slow song that way they aren't singled out on the dance floor.

Feed him a hearty breakfast of xanax and mimosas.

I would definitely say small wedding. Friends and family or figure out a number he's comfortable with having, and figure out the crucial people who you both want there without offending other family members. Have a beautiful small wedding, have someone video it from afar (make sure photographers and videographers are not in your face; there are plenty out there who stay a little more incognito but take great shots) and have a big casual lunch reception when you get back from your honeymoon. My cousins did this, and while I felt a bit offended at first, I never said anything to them, and now that I am planning my own wedding, I'm finding that I want to do exactly as they did. Their small wedding was beautiful, and their big reception was in a backyard with good food and was very relaxed.