Getting married on Veterans Day?

I have been too wedding on 11.11 and I have two people who are having their wedding on that day, I don't think it would be a problem

Thank you to everyone for the advice and input. I met with the owner of the venue this morning and she actually ended up having 11/18 open up. I went with that day instead even though it's the Saturday before Thanksgiving. Hopefully it won't be an issue for our guests.

FH and I looked into this date not realizing at first it was Veterans Day. Both of our families have active and retired military members and the few we spoke to kinda felt uneasy about it. If you have family members who are veterans see how they would feel, if you don't, it's fine.

I'm a veteran and I got married on 11/11/11. I got married at 30 years old which was my first marriage. Honor to my country as well as my spouse was very important to me. Having the two on the same day was incredible. Also having it be 11/11/11 would make it even more special. Unfortunately I'm going through a divorce which is not my fault...Sorry for the super depressing downer...lol. I was just a hopeless romantic who fell in love with a woman who's not.....anyways outside the bad ending to what I thought was going to be a happy one, I don't have a problem with it. The other posts are right, if veterans day is a big thing in your family than that will make the day even more special but besides that, your marriage day should be the most important day to the two of you and if it happens to fall on veterans day than celebrate your day with us veterans and the veterans in your family. Because any good veteran I know and have ever known would not mind if a couple that is in love got married on the day that honors them. Congratulations and live happy!

I’m getting married this year on Veterans Day. Didn’t plan it, but like many others, my venue was available on that Sunday. No one was offended when I told them. I work st the VA & all vets I’ve told think it’s a cool idea. I have a Vietnam Vet Officiant & will obviously note the day and give a thank you during ceremony. I’m also having a basket of lapels with American flags & Veterans Day variety. Finally, I’m putting charity/donation info in the basket to draw awareness to great causes & organizations. I’m sorry, but I think a lot of people are overreacting here. Unless you KNOW you will offend a guest, go for it (& hopefully have decency to note the date in some special ways).

View Quoted Comment 9/11 is somber, but it's what we make of it. My nephew was born on 9/11 so for a country it's somber to what happened. But we celebrate a great day of his birthday!!! My FH and I are getting married on 11.11.22. He is a veteran, I have a family a Vets, friends, and they all think it's a cool day to get married. None of them sew it as a bad day. And I am planning to recognize them all during the reception. The days, any of the 365 days are what we make of them.

View Quoted Comment “I work at the va and all the vets thinks it is a cool idea.”


It’s because you have power of veterans by being an employee and the motto for the VA first. Having a wedding on Veterans Day is a little antithetical for putting veterans first.
And to think you are bothering veterans by asking what they think of your wedding. I know this is years ago but hopefully you’ve moved on from the va.
As veteran that was catastrophically injured think tunnels to towers foundation commercials VA employees that don’t always put veterans first should just work in the private sector.
Because in those close door veteran groups led by peers mostly what we talk about is employees like you.

View Quoted Comment Dear John, thank u for serving. I usually don’t reply to online msgs that appear like “trolling”. This one means a lot to me tho. The veterans I have cared so deeply about & for are very special & attentive. They notice things, like a new ring & time off (wedding stuff). I’ve been blessed to have these warm relationships, professionally. When asked, I don’t mind telling my clients a bit about me. I’m not a cold overly-clinical provider. They took interest bc we had this rapport & trust. All- every single 1 who asked me- said this was fitting “meant to be” bc I worked so hard to help at the VA. Those peer to peer groups are invaluable, but trashing providers can really hurt the therapeutic process for those trying to get well. I hope ur well & getting what you deserve as a vet!! My message remains unchanged, getting married on Veterans Day is ok, as long as ppl aren’t offending their guests or loved ones. Happy to add that my guests enjoyed the American flag lapels, the table dedicated to veterans’ causes (& donated instead of just gifting me) and my vets back at home even made signs congratulating me & changed my name on my office placard. I wouldn’t change a thing. Sounds like ur experiences haven’t been great w CA & I sincerely hope you find what u need. 🙏🏼