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Getting married On a friend’s anniversary l?

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Angel, on October 21, 2018 at 6:22 PM

My fiancé and I picked a Date for our wedding , but then my maid of honor mentioned that it’s the same day as our mutual friends dating anniversary. While we have no sentimental attachment to our date we picked it does have a spiritual meaning (10/10 the number of completion). Our mutual friend doesn’t seem happy that this is the day we picked because she planned on getting married on that day also (she is not engaged yet). Should I just suck it up and change the date to appease her? Or should I stand my ground because I truely love this day and I really don’t have a problem with her getting married on it later in life?

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Winter Bride · on October 21, 2018 at 9:15 PM
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It’s not the same date. It’s the same Month & Day. If it was the same month, day and YEAR...yeah ok then. And to be honest, if someone else we know picked our same Month & Day, or birthdays or dating anniversary or any other sort of special date, I’d be flattered! Like hell yeah, we picked such a great date! Go us! ❤️
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Jennifer · on October 21, 2018 at 10:06 PM
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Ummmm, so she's NOT engaged? I think that I would sit down and tell her that, while I understand it's a date she'd like IF/WHEN she gets engaged & is her dating Anniversary, I, and FH, have a reason as to why it was picked.
I'd ask for her to be Happy that we chose that date and to help us celebrate. But,if she can't be happy and do that, it's too bad, but you understand.
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November 2018
happeningmom · on October 21, 2018 at 10:12 PM
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If you start changing your date because someone isn’t happy with it then you will never get married. It is her dating anniversary. If she becomes engaged and wishes to marry on that day she is able to. You getting married on it makes no bearing on her personal choices.
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lashavetta · on October 21, 2018 at 10:56 PM
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I understand thats your friend but of that date have sentimental meaning you sjould keep it besides she not even engaged yet
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FutureMrsC · on October 21, 2018 at 11:08 PM
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FH and I's dating anniversary is 10/10 haha I wanted our wedding on 10/10 too but wasnt willing to wait a whole other year so we're on the 5th. A friend on mine actually had her wedding on 10/10/2015 and it didn't bother me. I wasn't even engaged yet so how could I possibly claim a date lol keep your date!
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Melodie · on October 21, 2018 at 11:29 PM
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Keep your date! As others have said, there are only so many days in a year. You are doing the best you can. She might be a little disappointed, but she will understand.
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Kayla · on October 21, 2018 at 11:38 PM
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No keep it and enjoy your day. If she’s too salty she won’t come that that’s her problem. People do this with baby names all the time lol
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Angel · on October 22, 2018 at 12:47 AM
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Thank you everyone! I am going to have a conversation with her and let her know how I feel about the situation! I appreciate everyone and their input. You guys got me through my first “tough” call and I am very grateful
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Melissa · on October 22, 2018 at 3:04 AM
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Man, the things people get upset for nowadays is ridiculous. Keep the date
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Expert December 2018
Robert's Wife · on October 22, 2018 at 4:07 AM
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Lol don't change your date she doesn't own it. Should every event birth wedding or party be changed on that day just because it's her dating anniversary.. Nope! Enjoy planning for your desired date!
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Dedicated September 2019
Raisingwildflowers · on October 22, 2018 at 4:20 AM
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Lol this reminds me of those who share their babys name and then theres that one person who's not even expecting yet and gets mad because that's what they were going to name their potential "what if" baby.

Just like a name, you can't claim a date when you aren't even engaged yet 😂
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Wendy · on October 22, 2018 at 5:55 AM
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Keep it!! If she’s mad at you because if that then she’s really not your friend. It’s a dating anniversary, and she’s not getting married the same day as you..
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Just Said Yes May 2019
Taggar · on October 22, 2018 at 8:25 AM
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100% keep your date, your friend is being ridiculous!
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Beginner October 2018
Kate · on October 22, 2018 at 8:34 AM
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Keep your date!!! It's just a dating anniversay...in the grand scheme of things dating is low man on the totem pole for actual marriage!
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Afterallthistime...Always · on October 22, 2018 at 8:41 AM
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After we already picked our date for June 2019, my friend booked at the same venue for the day after but in June 2018. It’s actually pretty awesome that we’ll always share that weekend as our anniversaries, and we can go back to the venue (it’s a garden) to celebrate together if we wanted. We plan to say something at our wedding to wish them a happy anniversary. Sharing a date doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
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Jessica · on October 22, 2018 at 8:56 AM
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Living for this hashtag!!
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Kenisha · on October 22, 2018 at 9:37 AM
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Petty Mayonnaise! 🤣🤣🤣 I always say Petty Wap or Petty LaBelle !
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Lady.ghoulica · on October 22, 2018 at 1:57 PM
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I wouldn't worry about someone else's dating anniversary, especially if they're not even engaged. They can still get married on that date once the time comes.... the whole idea of "oh, you can't get married on that date, that's my date!" is so stupid. Do your own thing.
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Lady.ghoulica · on October 22, 2018 at 1:58 PM
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Lol! Really?
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FutureMrsKC · on October 22, 2018 at 2:03 PM
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Keep your date, you are engaged and she is not. No one "owns" a date over anyone else! If that date is cool to you and works for your budget I wouldn't worry about anything or anyone else. You're already planning, she is not. Good luck!
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