Hello All
I will be getting married next year to the love of my life we've been together 8 yrs before making this decision. Well for starters he has some issues (depression and ADHD) all his life but was not properly diagnosed. For me it was tough to deal with but I endured until he was able to get help (counseling and therapy) He is doing EXTREMELY well . During this time we both went through a hell of ups and downs thank god no suicidal thoughts or ideas. My family I don't deal with at all for my own personal reasons, the most important people to me are deceased (both my parents). As far as his family his dad is deceased but his mother and sister are still alive. The problem is they both claimed themselves as Christian and cries to him about getting married and now that we are engaged they don't deal with him. Our whole relationship they didn't deal with him. He even told me before we met they didn't deal with him. When I informed them about his condition 3 years ago his mother response to me was "Well he is in your hands now. I did the best I can do". This is your FIRST BORN ONLY son we are talking about here you can't be serious. His sister response to me was "Well you knew he was depressed when you met him" which is a lie I DIDN'T KNOW.
I've been to his mother's house on the holidays the 1st and 2nd yr we were together and she appeared to have liked me. I only spoke to his sister on the phone 3 times and she also appeared to have liked me but she never saw me to this day. Now that we are engaged Neither of them are supportive. Here it is Christmas and they didn't call, text merry Xmas or send a card. When I asked my fiance what's going on with them he says "Honestly, I don't know if I could guess it would be because they thought you were arguing with them about my depression and they were offended but who cares I don't deal with them and I don't want you to deal with them I love you. You are not marrying my FAMILY, you are marrying ME.
We invited his mother to the wedding her response was "You know I can't leave the COWS alone here whose gonna take care of them I can't make a trip to NJ for that". she runs a cattle farm.
We invited his sister and she didn't respond still to this day Our engagement was June 29 2019. Just need some insight here and feedback.
Should I just leave it all alone get married and move on. my list is 20 people
