Getting married near bridesmaid’s anniversary

I dont thibk it's rude. It's her choice to be a bridesmaid, she cannot ever blame tou for flying on her anniversary

I don’t think it’s rude at all. There’s never going to be a date that doesn’t conflict with at least one person’s birthday, anniversary, vacation, etc. Do what works for you.

I agree. You asked her, and she said it was cool. It’s really her choice to make knowing the dates. If she’s okay with it, you should not feel bad. Also, on the flip side, she could decide to extend her stay and celebrate her anniversary in the city where your wedding will be held.

I cannot tell you if either ot both of us was home or working or what on our second anniversary, but I am sure we talked on the phone, and did something special if not on the anniversary, then the weekend before, or aftet, rather like a birthday. Important that we celebrate each year, but the exact date does not matter. I cannot imagine planning a wedding avoiding the birthdays and anniversaries of all immediate family and the SO's by a day, for the 30 or so most important people and you could wipe out 30 weekends a year, then of course their children's birthdays... Avoid any already scheduled major events, like 25th anniversaries with parties of 50 . Avoid any already scheduled weddings, that person's own, by at least 2 days. Anything open is fine. Avoiding an anniversary of a friend who may or may not agree to be a bridesmaid is NUTs. Beyond reasonable. For all you know now, she may be too pregnant to fly, or be going to her own sister or brother's wedding, on any other day you might choose.
Do your best.

It's not rude and you already cleared it with her so go for it!

Thank you, everyone! We’re going to go with the date. This friend is actually my first and only married friend as of now, so I just wasn’t sure if this was an okay thing to do or not!

Good. One of our rare visits ( far) to then FI family, a SIL objected to when we were setting ours, her birthday, and her husband was a groomsman for my FI. FMIL, who had 3 kids, FI and a brother and a sister, had been through this, especially as 2 first cousin did too. Everyone so careful, no conflicts, 5 weddings. Then twinkie starts in. This is her birthday. No, that is the week before our vacation week starts, we need to pack. Another her daughter's birthday. MIL pulled out an 18 month calendar, and paper, and started asking everyone to tell their birthday and anniversaries . Over 30 of us, me, mil, fil, siblings of FI, some spouses, some grandchildren. It got funny, because then they started the other sibs not there, their birthdays, anniversaries, spouses, and children. Clearly SIL not a big thinker. Stunned to see that if we X out any weekend with an event like a wedding already scheduled, or a birthday or anniversary of immediate
family, 65 weekends in 18 months would be out. Now, my family, and we all laughed and dropped it. But my mom called me,IL had sent the calendar to my mom to add our family. I also had a brother and sister marrying that summer. 8 sibs, 5 spouses 18 grandchildren,my mom filled out, photocopied, sent back. 73 weekends, in 18 months. 15 with double hits, had some birth, ann, wedd, MIL had the best time with it. And MIL would tell family, 👵T and J decided on date, shuddup on the birthdays and such, we don't want to hear it! ....Because FIL comes from a huge family too. And no mater what you schedule you get a list. The thought of worrying about BM and GM occasions, crazy. I forwarded your post link this AM to my MIL. To laugh over breakfast.

I don't think it is rude at all. A 2 year wedding anniversary is not a milestone. If you try to book your wedding around other people, you will never find a date.

Definitely not rude! You asked her & she clearly gave the ok. Go for it!

Congrats on getting married I don't think your being rude its her choice to be a bridesmaid or not and maybe they can stay an extra day and have a anniversary vacation? hope you pick the date that you like

Not rude.

my wedding is the exact same day as my best friend's birthday who happens to be my maid of honor. and she was fine with it.

i mean that's really nice of you to consider. so maybe you can give her a cute gift or something

It’s not rude. She knew her anniversary, had the option of saying no and she still chose to be a bridesmaid. It worked out in the end since she’s down to be a bridesmaid. Best of luck !