Getting married in my fiance's hometown... My side of the family lives far away and not many will attend.

At least around here, the couple generally pays for the whole wedding themselves these days... it might be best not to count on your families picking up the tab.

I was going to say something similar to what Kay said. But it seems like the situation is getting you down a bit. Just know that the people that can be there will and those that cant will be thinking of you from afar.

I feel like your question doesn't even need to be answered but I will anyways. Pay for your own wedding, problem solved

I know many couples can't afford to do this, but why not have the wedding in your fiance's hometown and then a small get together where the majority of your family lives? Both sides would be involved and get to celebrate with you.

My wedding was in the state that my dh's family is in, but across the country from my whole family. I found ways to have my mother feel involved in the planning. Sending her pictures, going dress shopping while she was in town, etc. Most of my family wasn't able to make it, but I did have a few family members make the trip and it meant a lot to me that they would come.

But as the pp have said it is pretty typical for the couple to pay for the wedding, we paid for ours. Don't expect parents from either side to contribute, but if they do it will be a nice gift.

I'm in the same situation. My FH and I live down near his hometown and family. Most of my family lives out of state. Almost none of my side of the family is attending the wedding in a few weeks. We're paying for our wedding ourselves. My parents offered to buy my dress which was a nice gift.

I do like MRSMcD's suggestion. Why not have a get together in your town (maybe with catered food or something) so that everyone gets to partake in your celebration and happiness. As to your original question: these days most couples pay for the wedding themselves and every once in awhile a family member will help chip in or pay for a portion. However, it is never cool to just assume that people should give you money-- I'd suggest you sit down with FH and discuss expectations regarding wedding finances and who can/will be paying for what.

Neither set of parents has any responsibility or "duty" to pay for any portion of the wedding. Plan your own wedding. Plan to pay for it. If either set of parents wants to offer you some money to help you in that process, that's a bonus.

I'd feel awful asking my family to pay for the wedding. If your family offers that's a whole different ball game, but if I'm old enough to get married, I'm old enough to pay for it is my motto.

Unless your parent's or your fiancé's parents have already volunteered to pay, this is a non issue. As for guests not traveling, I have a huge family and we couldn't invite everyone and not everyone could travel to where we live so my parents are hosting a wedding celebration next spring for everyone. Maybe something like that would work for you as well.

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The "traditional" division of cost is generally outdated and its more along the lines of if anyone wants to contribute money or pay for a certain part of the wedding (ex: the dress, the music, the bar, etc.) then they will and its more a group effort. That being said, you're an adult so you can't *expect* anyone to pay for your wedding.

My parents had saved for pretty much my whole life and set aside some money they inherited after their parents/my grandparents passed away for my wedding. They gave me a budget of what we could spend, and then FH and I also contributed a few thousand dollars. FH's parents declined to contribute anything to the wedding although they did host and pay for the rehearsal dinner.

We have family spread out all over the US and Canada, to make it easy on everyone we picked a middle location near an airport that is easy to get to (Milwaukee, WI). If you haven't put down any deposits, maybe try to find a middle location? I don't know if you are dealing with an ocean divide or anything, but if its a matter of a few hours you can try to make it even travel for both families.

You should never expect for your parents to pay for everything. They should offer, and if they don't you should look into paying for the wedding as a couple. If FH's parents offer to contribute that is wonderful, but make sure to still include your family in everything that you can!