Getting Married Before Wedding

So I believe if you’re old enough to get married then you’re old enough to make your own decisions regardless of what your parents believe. His parents can be against it and be upset but that doesn’t need to change your plans. This is your life and your wedding so do what you want!

Just because his parents are upset about you moving in together doesn't necessarily mean you have to get married immediately. If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to make your own decisions about how you're going to live your lives. If the two of you want to get married now and then have a vow renewal/celebration in October, that's an awesome idea. If you do not want to do that, then don't; move in together now and get married, as planned in October. Assuming you are adults, this is your decision. (However, if your mom is paying for the entire wedding and she doesn't want to pay for a vow renewal/celebration of marriage, that is her choice as well.) Good luck!

Sorry to pile onto your troubles but didn’t you guys discuss this and how to handle it, prior to announcing your plans to move in together? This should not be a crisis 6 months prior to your wedding. There’s no way I’d be pushed to get married before my wedding (that sounds funny btw lol). Good luck!

I agree that you guys should do what you want without his parents making a decision like that for you. If you get married now only because they aren't happy, you'll resent them and regret it.
When you're married you will be a team and your families shouldn't have a say in big decisions. You definitely don't want to set the precedent that theyll be able to dictate how you live your life together.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this 100%!

I don't understand why his parents have a say in your living arrangements.

You are both adults, correct?

There is absolutely no need for you to be married before you move in together, and there is no reason for either of your parents' to weigh in on the issue, unless they are being asked to finance your new home.

I'd just tell your fiance not to cave to his parent's opinions. He's an adult and can tell them you're getting married in October and are moving in together before.