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Getting legally married before the ceremony and reception

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Kate, on May 9, 2016 at 9:47 AM

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My FI and I want to get married on July 21 2018, which is he day he proposed to me and its the earliest year we can get married (he's done school in 2017 and it gives us time to plan/save more). Unfortunetly that day lands on Saturday which means everything is much more expensive. There's a venue that I really like which charges $74pp (thats the cheapest meal plan) for Saturdays. If I have my wedding on any other day of the week I could do the buffet option which is $45pp which is more ideal for us and our budget.

I was wondering if it would be okay to get legally married on the Saturday so I can still have that day be our official wedding day, and then have the ceremony and reception the next day? I still want to walk down the aisle with all the guests there, but if we get legally married the day before we could just read our vows and not have an officiant? Or if that's too weird, do you think people would be okay with going to a ceremony on Saturday and then reception Sunday?

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Master March 2016
The Trap Selena · on May 9, 2016 at 11:40 AM
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Or maybe consider knocking everything out on Friday? If you have OOT guests, they may be more likely to come to a Friday night wedding as opposed to a Sunday wedding so they wouldn't have to rush home after.
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Master January 2017
Hot Like Bea · on May 9, 2016 at 11:40 AM
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@Marissa - Meaning don't be one of those posters who asks for advice, and then gets angry when they hear advice they don't like, and then starts calling everyone rude and bullies and goes and cries to the moderators. At that point, no one will want to give any advice to that poster at all, and will probably not take anything they say seriously after that.

OP- Glad you aren't that kind of poster. Stick around, get to know people here, and you will see that what may feel like rudeness, is really just blunt honesty. It can be off-putting at first, but it's all said with good intentions. Unless you act like an arsehole, then it might not be said with good intentions.

Also, @Janeen nailed it. The day becomes special because it's your marriage anniversary. It doesn't have to have any significance before that. FH and I are getting married on a Sunday during a holiday weekend in January because it's what we can afford. Our "dating anniversary" is in September. What we love about having our wedding in Jan is that we can have something to look forward to after the craziness of the holidays subsides. Plus, it gives us an excuse to go out of town somewhere nice and warm when the weather is all shitty here in Oregon.
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Master May 2017
GymRat · on May 9, 2016 at 11:44 AM
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What exactly about Celia's comment was rude? You asked for advice and that's what you're getting.

If you don't think you can save up for the Saturday date then have everything on one day. Just leave 7/21 as the date he proposed and move on. Let go of the date and be realistic with what you can afford.

ETA: saw your update. Glad you decided to do it on one day.
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Zoe · on May 9, 2016 at 12:05 PM
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Another vote for just getting married on Saturday and having the reception/party Sunday, but don't 'redo' the wedding. Or, just have different anniversary.
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