Getting "Envelopes" as gifts

Lol have I heard of this?

That's beyond common practice. It's expected at every wedding I've been to.

If you want to get physical gifts at the wedding, feel free to register. If you don't need anything else, don't register and people will get you cash/checks. If you're not having a shower, it sounds like you don't need anything much? If so, I wouldn't register.

I'm from Chicago. Cash/checks are the norm for wedding gifts. We got only 2 non-cash gifts at the wedding.

You can always create a small registry for your TX friends.

My sister lives in Texas. In their social circle, it's exactly how you describe it. Physical gifts that you registered for are given at the shower and the wedding. However, in NJ/NYC where I live, it's common to give a physical gift at the shower (if one is invited) and cash/check to the wedding.

I'm with you. My family is used to registry gifts.

It might be an option to create a small registry. That way, they have that option, but it should be relatively clear that you would prefer cash gifts.

I live in Massachusetts, real gifts are for the shower. Wedding you pretty much only get envelopes.

And make sure you have a secure box to put them in.

My FH is building a replica of the chapel that we're getting married in for the card box. It's like 3 feet tall! I thought he was crazy at first...guess not.

I hardly ever see a physical gift brought to a wedding (nj/ny)

Fhs family is from suburban Philadelphia, and he says they ONLY give physical gifts at wedding. Sadly we don't need anymore crap. His one aunt gave us gifts, not even on our registry, nothing we need or want. Thankfully, even without a gift receipt, i was able to return it all for store credit. I wish they would just give cash, so i dont have to try to return all this stuff we dont even want.

Until i ready Lilly's post, i was about to say that the idea of giving physical gifts at a wedding tends to be more of a southern tradition, where the northern states seem to reserve gifts for the showers and give the envelopes at the wedding, but her FH proved me wrong!

Dont feel insecure or uneasy about this, as it is normal and usually expected traditions...do think your FH is crazy, either...people are getting more creative with their card boxes and I think a replica of the chapel is an adorable idea!

I agree with J&B- you could create a small registry just for those who want to bring physical gifts

Like Heather I am in MA and physical gifts are for showers and monetary gifts are for the wedding. It may be a good idea to have a small registry for your Texas guests (if they are going to bring a gift anyway you may as well get something you want).

I'm from Washington state, living in Oregon. My sister just got married 2 weeks ago and gifts/cash was an even split, possibly more gifts than money. So maybe it has more to do with tradition than location, not sure. But my family would freak out if we weren't registered. I say you should do a registry anyway. If people want to give cash, they will. But you don't want 15 different sets of knives you don't want because you didn't register for one you do want.

I am in Chicago and we did register and I'm happy we did. We're getting some great gifts! We registered for stuff we "want" vs. "need" since we're already have everything. I personally enjoy the gifts although I didn't expect any (it is customary to give $&dollar. I didn't have a shower though.

If you register, BBB will give you an incentive discount to complete your registry after the wedding...or so I've heard...so why not register? It's fun.

Yup - Texas here. I didn't know people gave cash at weddings until I came on here. And at my wedding, I didn't get a lot of cash. But I got the things I registered for! I don't usually give cash at a wedding, either, because that's how I was raised (but I haven't gone to any weddings without a registry anyways).

I said once that I don't give cash, and you would've thought I said that weddings are evil. :-)

If you have Texas people going, I'd have a small registry. Otherwise you might get random presents.

In Tennessee people give money at the wedding and gifts from the registry at the shower. I am getting married in Texas and did not know that people bring gifts to the wedding.

Yup. Out of 130ish people who came, I only got around $1100 - which is awesome. But the majority of people bought us presents.

It might also be a traditional regional thing - my family's been in Texas for more than 4 generations. For the most part, the people who gave us cash aren't originally from here.

I'm from a small town in CA and people always brought gifts to weddings. I never knew about the tradition of giving gifts at a shower and cash at the wedding until I joined WW.

I would create a small registry for your Texas guests since that is what they are used to!

I've heard that about BBB, Lively. Maybe I'll register for some stuff I've always wanted, but don't need. I was just talking to my FH...he said, "I don't care if they bring physical gifts, as long as there's a gift receipt!" Geesh...sometimes I wonder about him. But God help me, I love him!!