Getting a hotel room for the wedding night?

My fiancé and I live together and have for a year, and have a child together. The night of we are taking her to my fmil’s hotel room 2 blocks from our house and we are staying at our house. We don’t want to spend the money either. And you have to pack and have a check out time we felt best to stay in our home.

I am in the same boat as you in almost every way except I am blessed to have my parents paying for the wedding. Personally, we are going to get a hotel for our first night and then go on our honeymoon since we are getting married in the summer and will have graduated by then. I know another couple in a similar situation that decided to stay at their apartment for their first night. They felt that it was more special to be in their own home than to have their first time be in a random hotel. I don’t feel that way but that’s not important. What’s important is that you do what makes you feel most comfortable and happy. And it definitely helps that one option is cheaper. I think that since you haven’t lived together yet, spending your first night at your new home will feel really special because it’s new. It is t like other couples that have already live together before the wedding or maybe have kids at home. I would recommend planning ahead and maybe having what you need for breakfast in bed? And maybe nice dinner reservations? Thankfully you have plenty of time to make these decisions and really don’t need to be worrying about those decisions now. Who knows what will happen by the time your wedding gets here. Maybe someone will want to gift you something to help. It’s really nice to see that there are other couples like us out there and on this website. It feels like we are rare creatures (young engaged Christian couples that don’t live together and haven’t slept with each other yet). Best of luck!

View Quoted Comment We really do seem rare lol thanks so much!

We are getting a hotel room, but only because we are leaving for our cruise the next morning after the wedding. If you get a hotel room, your family might not bug you but room service sure will at 11. At home you can be uninterrupted, just make sure door is locked. Congrats.

We have the same situation in many respects! We are waiting and don't live together. We've had the same advice. I have a lot of family coming from out of town and due to finances will be staying with us. Our honeymoon won't be until 2 months later. Even with 2 houses filled with people, we are looking for the option of one of the homes being just ours for the night. Yes, we'll likely be interrupted in be the morning, however we're putting more emphasis on it being the first night as husband and wife. We're not as concerned about solitude for intimate performance because we know we will be too tired. We've spoken to friends who urged us not to rush it. In fact my sister who has been married twice, heavily encouraged not to plan anything but food, prayer, showers, couple bible study, and sleep for that night. She then chuckled and said if you have energy for canoodling, don't worry about going to the end.
Anyway, we appreciate her advice and plan on taking it.

We were planning to get a hotel room (we have 5 dogs and dealing with all that in my wedding dress did not sound like fun not to mention we wouldn’t be fully alone lol) but some cuts had to be made and that was one of them. Then my Aunt told me she wanted to get the room as our gift so now we are again lol

My fiancé and I are in the exact same place as you mentioned. However we will be spending our wedding night in our new home. We are planning on renting beginning of December since we get married on the 12/23. We won't be living there since we get it, but we will be setting up our home til we go home on the 23 night.

I don't think it's necessary to rent a hotel when you have a home. I see as unnecessary spending money when you already have a place to stay.

I suggest you both do what you guys will like. At the end, it's you guys wedding night. Only happens once! Good luck

How about you two stay in your new place but make a "do not disturb the newlyweds" sign , so you can enjoy your alone time.