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Germaphobic / not-touchy bride?

Gen, on November 27, 2018 at 1:58 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 10

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So, I feel like really the only advice for myself is “deal with it” haha, but I’m just wondering if there are any other brides/grooms in the same boat...

I’m just really not a touchy person... I don’t really enjoy hugging people unless it’s like, my FH or immediate family. Additionally, I’m pretty germaphobic. Don’t get me wrong, I am SO excited to get to see all our friends and family at the wedding... but I’m also really dreading having to hug everyone and not have much of my own space all weekend? I struggle with a lot of anxiety, and one of the main things that provokes my anxiety is my fear of getting sick in general....... so naturally, getting sick at our wedding/being sick on our honeymoon, is becoming a huge anxiety for me. Beyond that, like I said, I’m just really not a touchy person and it makes me cringe thinking about how many people I’m going to have to hug!

Does anyone else feel like this? Anyone miraculously found a way out of it without offending your guests? Lol

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Latest activity by Olivia, on November 27, 2018 at 8:10 PM

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Mrs. S · on November 27, 2018 at 2:03 PM
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I am not germaphobic but I don’t like to be touched unless it’s my fiancé. I’ve accepted I’m going to have to hug everyone and get over it lol
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Gen · on November 27, 2018 at 2:05 PM
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Haha, yeah I really don’t think there’s a way out of it 😂 I’m mostly just wondering if anyone else can relate to this because I feel guilty for dreading it, but I still am?
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Mrs. S · on November 27, 2018 at 2:07 PM
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No reason to feel guilty! But honestly I do still feel guilty bc I started going to a new church a few weeks ago and at the end we hold hands and sing and I just cringe every time.
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Gen · on November 27, 2018 at 2:15 PM
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Omg I would too 😖
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Alexandra · on November 27, 2018 at 2:30 PM
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I'm a little bit like this too... I'm trying to just tell myself that I'm not going to get sick, (I'm taking EmergenC morning and before bed) (mind over matter) and also that people want to hug me because they love me and my FH and they are genuinely happy for us... So I'm trying to be ok with it.
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PurdyAikey · on November 27, 2018 at 3:55 PM
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Honestly, I like hugs (now kinda -- I was not touchy either until I started dating FH), but I am DREADING all the people and touching them lately (probably because it is a winter wedding and people are starting to get sick, and when we planned it in may there weren't many people being sick!)! We are doing a receiving line per my families request, and I am a little grateful in retrospect because I won't have to touch anyone (Except FH) before DINNER (after washing my hands from the receiving line!! I usually don't have social anxiety at all, BUT for some reason lately I have been feeling very anxious about ALL THE PEOPLE even to the point where guest calling us seems like a lot of effort just to talk to them! It is very weird!

One piece of advice since you are a germaphobe is have one of your BM/GMs keep sanitizer on their person for you!
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PurdyAikey · on November 27, 2018 at 3:56 PM
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^THIS! I have also started taking Vitamin C & Vitamins for the last few weeks!
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Melissa · on November 27, 2018 at 4:36 PM
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YES.

My entire family is Portuguese so its customary to give a kiss on each cheek when saying hello and goodbye. I hate it. I cant tell you how many damn times I've bumped noses with people or been accidentally kissed on the mouth. And it's considered rude if you dont do it. I really just want to shake everyone's hands on my wedding day and just say I dont want to kiss so my makeup wont smudge lol.
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Maggie · on November 27, 2018 at 6:27 PM
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I hate hugging people! You definitely arent alone, but i dont have good advice for you, I think it will be unavoidable.

I'm nervous about being sick too. I also have anxiety and tend to get sick when I'm stressed... so it's this loop of making myself sick by being stressed about being sick lol. I'm hoping to avoid it before the wedding with airborne, lots of rest, water etc. And probably yoga and meditation for the mental aspects of it.
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Olivia · on November 27, 2018 at 8:10 PM
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I am a huge touchy-feely-huggy kind of person. It takes a weird stranger to make me the opposite. However, my fiance is totally opposite. He has aspbergers and is naturally quiet and introverted to begin with, he's gotten much better with socializing since I've dragged him out into the world and he's become very comfortable with our friends and my family being close and touching him. Not sure how well he'll handle our wedding with so many people he either barely knows or doesn't know and we all know there will be a lot of hugs and everything. He can get overwhelmed and shut down in defense so I'll make sure to steal him away to a quiet place when I can to give him a chance to decompress and mentally reset, but I know as long as I'm near him it shouldn't be too bad. I've learned to read his body language well so I'll know when he needs me to take the reigns for a while.
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