**Garter/Dollar Dance**

My favorite experience with garter toss was when the husband put it on a football and threw it to the guys that way. It seemed more man-like than releasing frilly frippery like a rubberband.

I would suggest extreme cultural sensitivity in both auction and dollar dance. I have learned on here that different areas do things differently, so I wouldn't say flat-out that you absolutely cannot do either, but to a lot of people it would come across as asking your guests for still more money than what they spent getting to the wedding, buying a gift, etc, and thus being rude.

If you don't really know about dollar dances and it's not a cultural part of your wedding, don't do it. Dollar dances are cultural and can be expected at certain weddings. Doing it just because you want something different most likely won't fly with your crowd if it's not the norm.

You can do other different things without bringing an auction or money into the picture.

My fiance is full German. He said his family has always done it. I didn't realize culture was an issue. I have seen many different things at various weddings. Just not two dances or something like that at one wedding.

Some weddings have LOTS of dances! You can do garter toss, mother/son dance, father/daughter dance, anniversary dance, grandparents dance, etc etc etc. I would just make sure you don't have so many special dances that everyone else is bored from not being able to participate. Dollar dance is a touchy issue - I'm a believer that guests should never have to open their wallets at a wedding, but I know the dollar dance can be a cultural thing. Just be sure to gauge your own guests for how appropriate this would be.

I'm not doing a dollar dance it is tradition where I come from but its my second marriage so its a no. I have never heard of an auction for a garder but I guess it you are money hungry from your guests you could do that. I wouldn't do them both, or you may as well ask for a cover charge at the door. Something different doesn't have to include money. you could have a dance off with the guys to see who wins it or get a whole bunch of garder in one box and they have to pick the one that you were wearing. I don't asking for money just leaves a bad taste in alot of peoples mouths.

Only do them if both sides of your wedding will know what's going on and it's expected. the garter auction it's very few and far between. Every wedding I have been to they had the dollar dance, only one had the auction and he was an auctioneer.

We did the dollar dance at ours and it was a great success! We made a good chunk of money off of it, and it allowed us both time to visit with our guests! (It's hard to get to see/talk to everyone, trust me!!)

I’ve personally never been to a wedding that did an auction…never heard of it. The money dance is a definite norm thing to do in my area…also when you do the money dance, you take a shot from the tray in exchange with the money but you don’t have to take the shot if you don’t want to… not sure if everyone does the same or not with that. We are doing the money dance and we’ll be playing forever young by Rod Stewart and I hope you dance by Lee Ann Womack =)

Most of the weddings I've been to do a dollar dance I don't necessarily want one because I don't like being the center of attention, but my fiance says that it is kinda tradition in the group that we hang out with so I guess we will see.