Garter Toss

Obviously both partners should be on board with all aspects of a wedding, but I feel like the garter toss especially is one of those things where both need to be all in. I can see it being really awkward and uncomfortable if that’s not something you’re into. I would sit down and have a conversation with your FH where you explain to him why it makes you uncomfortable. He shouldn’t want you to do anything you would be nervous about, and you can spend a fun evening together researching alternatives!

I've never seen one at a real wedding. I think it can be uncomfortable for the guests, too. If you're not sure about it, I suggest talking to him and letting him know you'd rather skip it.

The one wedding I was at that had a garter toss was so uncomfortable. Here are two compromises:

1. He can toss a garter that you're not wearing and he didn't take off of you (i.e. and extra garter)

2. You can remove something of his (maybe a tie?) with your teeth to make it equal.

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

The last wedding we attended as guests had one and it was in a church fellowship hall so they kept it PG rated, and the couple was very modest anyway. Most we have seen in real life are equally modest, and not a Magic Mike show that YouTube would lead people to believe is the norm everywhere. It’s uncomfortable for guests when the couple makes it uncomfortable by turning it into an exhibition. Another wedding we attended had the groom toss his boutonnière instead because a garter toss was too “scandalous” for their guests and religion.


Don’t do anything you are not comfortable with and learn to have open communication with mutual respect where you can learn to disagree. Also, you don’t have to replace it with anything.

I haven’t seen one of these in years. I find them to be in poor taste whether they are of a racy or tame nature, on principle. If you don’t want to do it, that should be the end of the discussion.

We are opting out I can't stand the tradition personally. I hate the idea of him going up my dress with children, parents, and grands watch. I also am not throwing a bouquet. We are think of instead doing a game. In the time limit of the song plays we will race to each group and get a picture with them. As seen on TikTok.