Future sisters-in-law invited to bachelorette?

My FSIL was not invited, but she's also not 21 yet. They're doing some sort of "surprise" dinner for me on the 17th though and she's been invited to that, which was nice of my BMs.

I'm inviting mine, one lives in BC so won't come (but I love her!), one is my brothers fiancé and will join us and the third I'm indifferent. We're not close but marrying brothers

Mine is my MOH so yeah, she will be invited for sure.

If you aren't close I don't see a reason to.

I invited my FSIL to my bachelorette party, but she is choosing to not attend due to that being her birthday weekend.

Mine are both BMs, so they were both invited and are coming. You may just want to invite both, the one you never talk to will probably not go

I'd personally invite them.

They are your new family and there is no better time than now to start building the relationship you will have with them for years to come. I'm sure they will appreciate the gesture of the invitation even if they can't make it. And why not make the first move in trying to get closer?

I won't be inviting mine! She lives very far away and we're not close.

I have 2 FSILs...

They were invited to my bachelorette, but both complained about the weekend it was held on.

Didn't hurt my feelings & I 100% expected that behavior from them.

If you're REALLY close to 1, I say invite them. That way the ball is in their court!

If you're just ok with the 1, I wouldn't even worry about inviting them.

Good Luck!!

I would feel awkward having H's family at my Bach. Not that anything bad would/did happen...just wouldn't want to feel filtered.

Thank you all. You all make valid points. I want to invite who I want there, but also don't want to alienate my future inlaws. I asked my future mother in law, she said invite both, the one Im close with probably wont be able to come because of her job and young child, and the other wont go if the one sister doesn't. I guess this is the challenge of keeping the peace in wedding planning

If you are in a good place with both, I would do both or neither. If you exclude one, her feelings may be hurt and you may miss the opportunity to get close to her

Change of plan. I was also being pressured to invite some cousins, so I decided a friends only bachelorette party, no family other than my sister who is in the wedding. I can state that family knows my mother, and may slip if something scandalous occurs - (jk!)