Future Sister in Laws.. To be a Bridesmaid or not? Help!

If you don't want to, don't ask them.

If they're not your nearest and dearest, you are not obligated to ask.

It's up to you. Do you feel close with them? I asked my fiancee's sisters because I couldn't imagine marrying their brother without them standing up next to me. They have been amazing since the moment I met them. They are my sisters now, the wedding is a formality for that. Don't ask them because you think you should...do it only if you genuinely want them next to you on that day.

I agree with PPs ^^^

I asked my SIL and wish I hadn't. I thought it would help us bond and it didn't at all and it just felt awkward to have her in the BP when we weren't close. She was even kind of snarky about how she thought she would be on DHs side and was hoping to be the best "person" for him rather than a BM. Oh well. IMO, you should only ask those you really want up there. If that doesn't include his half sisters then thats fine. Really, if he wanted them in the party he could have them on his side so it's not all on you.

If you're happy with your 5, just leave it at that. I wouldn't have read into her statement that she wants to be one; if anything, it seems like the opposite.

Especially since your brother is not a GM, don't ask his sisters to be BM! They are older, and if they did not immediately come to mind, you are not close enough to have them in your wedding.

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Don't do it-- she may have honestly been trying to make sure you didn't feel obligated, and it's always better to take people at their word. If she meant something else, she'll learn to say what she means.

I'm not asking my FSIL to be a bridesmaid. We get along fine, but she's not one of my closest. No hurt feelings.

Take her at her word

If you don't want to then don't. They're adults and understand. I asked FSIL because we are close in age and hang out quite frequently. We're not best friends by any means but we are definitely close. It sounds like you don't have a strong desire to have them so I say don't.

I'm not asking. I like my FSILs a lot, but we've never hung out. No one's mentioned it, which is a relief.

My FSIL is getting married this year, so when I got engaged I wasn't going to ask her since she hadn't asked me. I didn't want any awkward feelings if she didn't want me in the bridal party and was completely fine not being in it. It turns out she forgot to ask me on vacation but included me in a BM Facebook group. I asked her to be in my bridal party since I'm going to be in hers and we have become a lot closer. I'm very happy to have her there and to be there for her!

I don't think your FSIL meant for it to be backhanded. I think she was just telling FH that it's honestly ok if she's not in the bridal party because she doesn't want you to feel obligated.

I agree with mrjomesandme..... I'm a BM for my FSIL on July, and her and FH'S other sister are BMs in mine. But that's only because we're more like sisters than in-laws.

My FSIL is not going to be a bridesmaid, but is going to do a reading during ceremony. Maybe yours can do that as well. It's definitely not necessary to make them bridesmaids.

Don't ask unless you want to. Getting married is a huge part of your life! Only have the ladies you love the most next to you!

I don't think you're obligated to ask them to be in your bridal party. You already have friends and sisters that you want beside you on your big day!

I like what @Butterfly suggested, about involving his sisters in a different way. My own FSIL is not in my bridal party, but we're thinking about asking her to do a reading during the ceremony.

Don't ask unless you OR FH wants to. DH's sister and I are not close. But it's his only sibling and we agreed early on to include all our siblings. If it was just who I wanted, I probably wouldn't have selected her, but it was worth it to keep peace with his family as well as it wasn't like I hated her. We were just neutral.

You dont have to ask them, i didnt ask my sil's and they were not upset at all. they'll understand that its your nearest and dearest next to you and that they are special too but they havent been a part of your life like your other girls have

You could have them give a reading if you wanted them involved still.