Future sister in law tagging along

I would recommend letting her know that while you love her, this time is meant to bond in your new beginning. Honesty is best, just make sure your words are kind necessary and true.

I agree with Maria and it's kind of weird for anyone to tag along unless it was a destination wedding where you would more than likely see her.

Wow! Without reading anyone else's comments I'm saying NO!!! It's your honeymoon!! Not a family vacation!! What gave her the idea this would be okay!!??? I don't care if you've lived together or whatever, the point is it's YOUR HONEYMOON!!!

I think that’s really weird honestly. It’s a honeymoon..not a family vacation. I don’t think you’re being selfish at all.

Definitely not selfish on your part. Communicate to her that while you love her and she is important to you, you will be spending your honeymoon alone with your husband/wife. Also, this is something your FS should be handling and addressing, not you.

Do you have any idea why she thinks this is ok?

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Good question! Why would she think this is ok? Out of all the times in your relationship together, your honeymoon is the one time meant just exclusively for you and your FH.

Was she actually being serious? I know my FSIL is always saying she's jealous and wants to come on our honeymoon BUT she also knows that would be insanely inappropriate. So instead she says if we decide to go back we can make it a family vacation.

No, that's incredibly inappropriate to even ask.

Why would she want to come on your honeymoon? I'm so confused.

What????? Oh Heck To The No!!! I wish anyone in his or my family would. I’m sorry but your honeymoon is for you & your FH to enjoy ALONE! You will Never get that back! I understand if it was for 1 year anniversary or 2nd & so forth. I would say ok we can all celebrate but BIG BIG No for the honeymoon. Call Me Selfish!

Uh no. Flat out say no. Why would she want to tag along on your honeymoon. That’s weird

That's such a weird request on her part!!! It's you and your husband's HONEYMOON!!!!! Not a family vacation! I can't even think of any circumstance where that would be appropriate in the slightest! Don't feel bad about it and tell her No. It would so awkward to have your sister in-law be a third wheel on your honeymoon!

No is a complete sentence. Your FI's sister, your FI's problem to deal with.

This is a HARD NO. Not only am I trying to wrap my head around the inappropriateness of it all but how is it that you have “just been told” she wants to tag along? Who told you? If it was FH, he should have Shut. This. Down.

If she is serious, you both should tell her that unfortunately she is actually NOT invited on your honeymoon. If it’s a destination she’s interested in, you’d be happy to send pics and let her know if you liked the hotel, etc. when you get back.

And no, you’re not being selfish - she’s being incredibly rude for even bringing it up. I’m hoping she is very young and immature and may not realize how intrusive this is?

Good luck! Update us on how it all shakes out.

I am a firm believer that a honeymoon is a sacred thing that ONLY involves the husband and wife . Funny story a couple months before our wedding MIL was planning a two week Scandinavian cruise which I was jealous of and she said well cancel your honeymoon and spend it with us instead. That was a solid no.... I definitely don't want to be celebrating my marriage with my in laws that's kinda weird LOL.

Thank you all for your advice and letting me know that I wasn’t crazy for thinking this wasn’t right. My FSI was the one who told me she was coming after asking where we planned on going. When my fiancé got home from work I told her about the conversation and she told me not to worry she’ll make sure that she takes care of it. My FSI is always inviting herself to be apart of things without ever asking if it’s okay 🤦🏽‍♀️ But again thank you all for your advice and comments. I’ll lwt you know how the convo goes when she’s told she can’t come 🙃

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Good luck! That's....incredibly weird. Most people are under the impression that the honeymoon is for the newlyweds only, so that they can celebrate the beginning of their lives together. I wonder what made her think this was appropriate, it completely isn't.

I'm...baffled lol people get WEIRD with weddings!

Is she really young or just one of those people that never really knows their boundaries?

Boundaries are good. You two are starting your own family, which means leaving your old families behind to a degree. If it's putting a damper on you getting excited for your honeymoon, I'd say speak to her about it and tell her "no." You're not acting selfish at all.