Future sister in law not coming = I need to vent

I'm sorry you are going through all of this

I am sorry about all of that! weddings are supposed to be a joyful time some people will do whatever they can to ruin it! We are allowing children at the wedding but not at the reception... we did have to make a few exceptions with my nephews because my sister lives out of state and everyone that lives close to the wedding venue will be at the wedding so there is litterally NOONE to watch them. I hope you are all able to resolve your diffrences before July... good luck!!

Could you have children at the wedding and then get a sitter for the few children from out of state thru a sitting service or friend who uses sitter.

I have to say, if these family members are just out to make you miserable and you start giving into their demands, it's just going to get worse.

I hope you and your FH can figure something out!

I'm sorry that you are going through this.

If you have chosen not to have children at your wedding, they need to honor that. I HATE children at weddings. In fact, I hate having them at most events, but that's just me. LOL!

There are few things, at an event, worse than a crying child, a restless child, a sniveling child. Ugh!

I hate to say this, but you probably do need to leave this one to your FI, as hard as that is. I say this for several reasons:

1. He has been dealing with these people far longer than you have, and no doubt has a better sense of when they are just bluffing and when they really mean it.

2. He has the bigger emotional connection with them. So if decisions have to be made about them not being there for the wedding, he is the one who needs to make those decisions, based on how important their presence is to him.

3. If his mother is trying to make you the bad guy, this will be a lot easier for her if you are the one negotiating with his family.

Thanks all for the feedback.

Mom N thanks for the great idea.... my family that is coming from out of town is amazing and has already found accomindations. His sister is only going to be about an hour from home. We offered the little one to come to the wedding, but not the acception and she said no.

2d Bride, great comments!

I totally agree with the thought that the MIL is manipulating this. My daughters MIL tried to do that. She lost. LOL!

Sorry acception is supposed to be reception

Thank you to everyone tons.... I think 2d bride and kathy R I will listen to that...his family that way I don't step on toes....man I just want to tell them what I think when they keep making him feel like it is all his fault. But He really manned it up and told them just a few minutes ago that I am the woman he is going to marry so either they deal with it or they can choose not to talk to him. I guess I just don't want him to lose his family. I can't believe his dad has not stepped up and put his wife or daughter in line. I think he is going to be okay losing his other son...the mom has disowned one son for some reason already.