Future sil trying to step on toes?

My Fsil and Fbil are getting married a week after us. We arent stealing their light and they arent stealing our light. We will get our day, they will get their day. We are even helping each other plan and prep.

I totally understand.. I am getting married Nov 2020 and my FH's son and my son plus my oldest niece are getting married Aug, Sept and Oct 2020.. Our boys both got engaged after us too.. this is my second marriage so I am kinda glad because they are all young and this will be their first but part of me also feels like the excitement won't be as high for mine.. just keep it all at the back of your mind and do you. Our kids are excited and happy as can be for us and that's all that matters is the support of everyone both ways... but in your situation I can see your concern and I she may be trying to be the first but what matters is you marry your sweetie and make your day special for you and him...

Since they aren't engaged yet, it's hard to say that they will actually get married during that timeframe. Venues book fast and that only being 13 months away, it's very possible that what they want won't be available. I wouldn't worry about it too much. The people who really want to be there will make it happen.

I wouldn't worry too much about the whole date situation, especially if you don't have an official date

I'm on the other side of this sort of. I've been with FH for 10 years. We got engaged 6/7/18. His cousin (who is one of my bridesmaids) just got engaged this easter weekend (so like April 2019). Her sister got engaged in Jan 2019. Our wedding date has been 10/10/20 since the day we got engaged.....so they are both having to pick dates after me (I think mostly because we've been together so long, it'd kind of irritate me if they picked a date before us and had SUCH a short engagement).

FH cousin decided her wedding date is 11/24/20. It's a little weird that it's so close to mine because our showers and bach parties will be really close together, and since we are both bridesmaids in each other's weddings, we will have to each take extra time off work. But I understand she wants to get married quickly so it's fine.

Her sister picked a date in June 2021. She is like 5 years younger than me and her sister (we're the same age) so I personally think it's fine and they can wait until 2021, but I have heard some gossip through FH family that FH and I are 'holding up all the family weddings' and we should've picked a sooner date.

Everything will work out. It's a wedding day, not a month or year. They get their day, you guys get yours. Think of the bigger picture - she's going to be family soon enough, so start thinking about how to bond and understand her better for the long term.

OOOOOO do I understand this. FH family member ( who has been previously married before and had a giant expensive wedding) proposed first.. out of no where knowing very well FH was going to.. and they decided to get married two months before. It's disheartening, I always just hope that maybe they are oblivious.