Morning ladies and gents. I'm looking for advice on how to address a problem sibling in a wedding party.
A little background. She is FH's only sibling, lives just over an hour away, and is in her mid 20s. FH and I drive to see her and my FMIL on a weekend at least once or twice a monthm His mom is the BEST omg I adore her. But more to the point. His sister, one of m6 bridesmaids.
What has us frustrated is that she doesn't respond to any questions or bridal party requests when they are made by me or my sister.
The wedding is in four months, and she hasn't ordered her bridesmaids dress yet. She has had the past 10 months to do so, since that's when we decided on the styles for the girls to pick from. We even added a few extra choices when she said she didn't like halter or strapless dresses.
I've asked her on more than one occasion, but never more than once in the same week, if she has ordered her dress yet. They take a few weeks to come in, after all. So I'm worried about how close to the wire she's getting.
We are also DIYing the bridesmaids bouquets since the venue requiressilk flowers (cruise ship). I've asked her to come up and stay the weekend with us to work on them with me and my sister (my MOH), because I really WANTED to spend that girl time with her and my only sister. That way the three of us could bond and be crafty and productive.
Any time I try to bring up my concerns by asking if there's any way I can help, she seems to just shut down and change topic. How can I express my concerns without getting their mother involved, if she doesn't want to listen? She's 24, and I feel like "tattling" to my FMIL would only hurt the situation.