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Future sil as bridesmaid

Elizabeth, on July 22, 2019 at 5:17 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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My fiancé told me last night that he would like me to ask his sister to be a bridesmaid. I am 100% on board with this idea but here is my concern. I have already asked all my girls months ago (she does not know this as she isn’t friends w anyone bc she lives out of town) and I already asked her two daughters to be our flower girls months ago. Should I be concerned that she will think she is an after thought?? In other words, how do I tactfully ask her?

fyi- wedding is about 6 months out

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Latest activity by Sara, on July 23, 2019 at 3:39 PM

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Kelly · on July 22, 2019 at 5:43 PM
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Kind of late at this point, shell know it's late to be asking, but I'd just go ahead and ask her if it means that much to your fiance and you're on board with it.
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Elizabeth · on July 22, 2019 at 5:45 PM
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Thanks for your input!!
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Cher Horowitz · on July 22, 2019 at 6:25 PM
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Just a note, you're not required to include FSIL in your BP! That's very sweet of you to do, but only ask if you truly want her as a BM
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CDickman · on July 22, 2019 at 11:47 PM
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Tell him if he wants her I. The wedding she can be a grooms women.
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Jacki · on July 22, 2019 at 11:53 PM
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How is your relationship with her? Will it affect your relationship with her or your FH if she is or isn't in your BP? It might be a conversation with her to see how she feels or she could be an attendant that helps you on your wedding day without the hassle of having to buy a dress, etc.
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Nicole · on July 23, 2019 at 12:24 PM
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I think since you think she will already be aware that it's late, you just address that. "hey I know it might come across as late to ask, but FH and I have been talking about it and we would Love to have you be apart of our day. Would you like to be a bridesmaid?"
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Elizabeth · on July 23, 2019 at 12:26 PM
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Thank you!! I think I’ll try something along the lines of this!!!
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Sara · on July 23, 2019 at 3:39 PM
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This is great advice!
Your FH might have asked you to include her because she is feeling hurt by not being included?
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