Future mother in law feeling like she doesn't care any more

I mean I guess you could talk to her about it but that depends on how close you two are.

View Quoted Comment We have always been super close

View Quoted Comment So then why wouldn’t you just talk to her about it?

After a while I think the excitement dies a little for others... I'm also super close to my FMIL and used to talk to her at least once a week! But she now has a new relationship that has started up in the last 4 months and I've talked to her maybe 4 times! It sucks but I know she has her own life too. Maybe you should just ask her in a playful way if all the info you keep unloading on her is a little TMI?! Maybe she wants some details but not everything...

View Quoted Comment That's true I will have to just talk to her

I think it's natural for excitement to die off a bit. At some point there isn't new stuff going on.
Just have a chat with her.

I will thank you

“No one will ever be as excited about your wedding as you are” regardless of who they are. It’s normal for the excitement to die down. If you need help, ask for it. But remember that life moves on for all parties.

If shes not excited to talk about the wedding, just dont talk to her about the wedding. Interest levels can wane, and like PP said, no one is as excited for your wedding as you. I'd just avoid bringing it up so you dont get disappointed with the response.

How long have you been engaged?

i think that it’s probably nothing personal and although it’s exciting for us it’s really honestly boring for everyone else

especially as the months drag on and add up

i would just try to share less and make an effort to talk about other stuff when you’re with her

View Quoted Comment It's been a year since Christmas.... so it makes sense of what u r saying

View Quoted Comment I’m really sorry she’s not as into it as you would like but I’m sure that it’s just the subject and she’s still just as excited about the day and wants to be just as supportive and loving to you but I think it’s just hard for friends and family to be as excited as we are for the length of the engagement and entire planning process

i have a friend that’s the same situation and basically I only text her now and have a rule about waiting and retreading before sending because it’s SO HARD to talk about only other stuff lol

What sucks is I only see u twice a week when me and my one year old daughter comes and vists them

Correction I only see her twice a week Haha

I think excitement about weddings tend to ebb and flow... people were really excited when we first got engaged, then it died down until around now that its getting closer (we're two months out). It seems like you'll have a long engagement so I can understand why she's losing interest. Itll probably pick back up again when you get closer. If she isn't really interested I'd just stop talking to her about it for now. She's probably just sick of it to be honest.

My future Mother in Law does the same thing. So we no longer include her or speak about our wedding to her. She will be left in the dark from now on. I will not tell her any details unless she ask.

In any engagement more that about 6 months long, people usually are excited for the first few months, then again in the last few months. This is perfectly normal. Nothing wrong with MIL. After a while it is like you are trying to get someone excited about next Christmas in March. Everyone will tell you, enough, already. Wait until 3-4 months out, and interest will come back.

Dear Devoted,

I'm a future mother-in-law and am very excited about the upcoming wedding (even thought it's been almost a year since the engagement, and it's another year till the wedding).

Sadly my future daughter-in-law doesn't care about my excitement or seem to want my help with anything; as she prefers to do everything herself.

Perhaps we should swap families?! ;-)

Have your fiancé talk to her alone. And get how she really feels.

Hi Tara,

Thank you for your input.

Unfortunately I think my son is afraid to talk to his fiancee. It's easier to just let things be.