future in laws not attending wedding

That's so sad! I'm sorry to hear it. Honestly I think this is between FH and his family -- it's not up to you to convince them that Canada isn't bad, it's up tp him to convince them that his wedding is important.

Do they have some sort of rocky relationship, or do you and In-laws have a rocky one? Just asking because its odd they wont make more effort for their sons wedding- I mean not just an aquaintance but their son. Im sorry to hear you guys are dealing with this! Good luck!

I am so sorry to hear that! I agree with the other brides. This is not your job to persuade them to come. I think that your fiancé needs to have this discussion with his parent, all of the pressure should not be on you. This is your very special day and they should want to be there. There is no reason to have to persuade your FIL to come to their son's very special day. The advice that I give you is to be as supportive and understanding to your man! He needs your support and your families support more than ever.

I'm going to say that the problem probably has nothing to do with Canada. Your FH needs to have a serious talk with them to get to what the real problem is. My guess is that they don't approve of the wedding, but the reason why is what your FH need to figure out.

I believe your FH needs to handle this, not you.

How awful that you are going through this *hugs*

Ok so it's not the price and it's not the weather, did they give you any other reasons for why they won't attend? there must be more to this than they simply don't like Canada as this is their sons wedding. Out of curiosity where do they live? and would you ever consider holding the wedding there? or maybe a compromise of somewhere in between?

He needs to deal with this. I suspect that it's not the weather or the money....

They sound rude to me. Communication is the key to clearing the air.

I have only met them once and we got along great(we live about 10 hours away from them). We chat on Facebook and get along great. I was very confused when I found out they were not coming. My parents(who are in their 80s) and all my family (I am the youngest of 9) live in Canada which is why we decided to get married there. His family lives in the northeastern USA.

What!?! That's awful. There has to be something else going on. Canada Is not bad at all, I'm a very proud Canadian. I think your FH has to handle this one love.

I agree with AlexisM082 - try not to take it personally. people can get in a weird place over weddings and they make up excuses.

if there's a issue other than it's Canada, then it's their issue. I'm sure they will really regret not being there and it's their loss. I bet it will be a beautiful, fun wedding!

it'll be ok.

It might be the fact that they do not know you. I agree with others, my first thought is that they do not approve of the wedding.

I'm sorry, hun! I'm in a similar situation in that some of my future in-laws will not be attending, and our wedding is only the next state over (they knew the date of our wedding and booked his youngest sister's trip to Europe to coincide with it and then claimed that they thought our wedding was a different date - yeah, I call BS on that). It's incredibly hurtful and you have every right to be upset. But this is not just your wedding they are missing out on, it's their SON!! He needs to be the one to have this conversation with them, let them know how hurtful their actions are and how damaging these actions can be to your future relationship with them (think of getting together for holidays in the future and how there will always be the elephant in the room of them not wanting to come to your wedding). I can understand if it were a medical issue or a physical disability that was the reason for it, but I don't think anyone's dream wedding involves their future in-laws CHOOSING not to be there.

Oh I'm sorry this is happening to you. I can completely understand why he would be upset and have every right to be. This seems extremely selfish on their part and unfair to their son and you. I honestly wish I could give you helpful advice but it seems like them not attending their own sons wedding is more of a deeper family issue.

That's a pretty BS excuse. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I'd agree that it's your FH's responsibility to talk to them about it though. I'm having trouble with anyone having anything against Canada anyway. They need to grow up and get over themselves.

They won't go because they don't like Canada..? It's their sons wedding. My son could have his wedding in the middle of a dump and I would still go. Sounds like they have some other issues to deal with.

I am Canadian(but live in the USA) my FH is American and as a couple we will be living in the USA.

"Canada is not so bad." Thats selling canada a bit short, sure it's cold in the winter. But it's an amazing country!

I am Canadian. Sure, freak weather can happen, but generally its still around 25 degrees celsius (umm 75 80 F? maybe?) in September. Clearly the problem has nothing to do with canada.

I love Canada - I have been several times - even in WINTER and it was fine. Their decision sadly has nothing to do with actually coming to Canada - it has to be something else.