Hi everyone. My FH and I are getting married this June. He has been married before but it wasn't a good marriage. She fell pregnant (mind you he was about 25 when this happened, she was about 29) so he did the right thing that he felt he should do and they married. His family really didn't like her much because of the way she treated him but they accepted it and let it be. About 13 years later after a couple of attempts to separate during those 13 years as well as counseling, he finally filed for divorce (plus he wanted to wait until the kids were older). He and I went to school together all our 12 years of school so when we ran into each other about 2 years after his divorce and dated for a bit, we got engaged and started planning our wedding. His brothers wife is friends with the ex-wife (which is totally fine and I completely understand that. I too went to school with both of them so we do know each other but were never friends). My FH and his ex-wife do not have a good relationship at all and he really isn't close to his sister-in-law. We've been planning our wedding since June of 2019 and his sister-in-law has know for about 3 or 4 months now when our wedding is which does happen to be on her birthday. We had a lot of trouble getting a date and it was the only date we could finally get and it just so happened to be her birthday which I didn't even know until it was too late. Anyway, she knew and joked that she would just celebrate her b-day at our wedding. We all laughed about it and went on. We just found out that they are taking their family vacation and flying out THE MORNING OF OUR WEDDING. Just booked the vacation recently with all her family. So she, his brother and their daughter all won't be there. We were having his brother and niece in the wedding. Now, for two years, she has bought me and my niece that lives with me, Christmas gifts and talks to me every time that we are together. I guess I don't understand how you can do that but plan your vacation and leave the morning of our wedding instead of later that night or the next morning. I know I can't control others actions and what they do but I just wanted to vent here that I am upset they did this and won't be there. He is upset as well as his brother won't be at his wedding even though it's a 2nd wedding for him. I'm sorry for the long post but I felt I needed to tell the back story to maybe understand the whole picture. I don't know if I want to say anything to her or just leave it alone. Thoughts?
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