I need somewhere to vent and you brides always seem to be so understanding!
Last night my FH grandmother called and asked if we had seen my FH’s dads message; we hadn’t. His dad is threatening not to come to his ONLY child’s wedding! All because of the fact that he “ won’t hold his tongue” when it comes to other family members. Other family members being his ex-wife (FH step mom).
FH broke down crying last night, and he doesn’t cry often. I am pissed off. He told his dad “you broke me” (his way of saying you broke my heart) and his dad starting playing the all poor pitiful me card. I went off while his grandma was on the phone with us. I said things like “ if he doesn’t come he’s a horrible father” “ he needs to grow up and care about someone other then himself”, all which FH agreed with and told me there was no reason to apologize to him(FH) I havent said anything to his dad yet but I want to SO bad. FH told me (but not his dad) that if his dad doesn’t come, he wants nothing to do with him anymore, that we won’t be going there for holidays, and that he’ll have nothing to do with his grandchildren.
I just don’t know what to do. I typed out this message to send when the time is right
“It is not that hard to push past your differences for 6 hours to make your son happy. He needs his dad there. He wants to have the memories of his dad shaking his hand and telling him he’s proud. He wants to have the photos of you and him that he will cherish for years and years after you are gone. This wedding will be one of the most important days in his life, he doesn’t just want you there, he NEEDS his dad there. I am just asking you to really think hard about not coming. I can promise you that there will be a lot of resentment if you don’t come. “
I don’t know what else to say to make him realize this is a mistake.
