Future in-law advice

Why does she hate that you booked a venue? Or is that she hates the one you picked? as long as you and your fiancé are excited and happy and love it then that is all that matters!

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To me it sounds ridiculous for your FMIL to be upset over this. Try not to let her pettiness bother you! If she's not paying for the venue, she has no right to be upset. It's your wedding that you're paying for!

As long as you and your FH love it that’s all that matters. And if they are contributing to the wedding it’s tour choice. Don’t let her bother you

I'm having the same problem with my mother. Every venue I look at and love, she shoots down because of the "distance" from her hometown. Note I say her's, because I haven't lived there in over fifteen years. She also is having a big issue with me having a Friday wedding instead of a weekend one.

In the end, you aren't going to please everyone.....so at least please yourselves!!

Everyone will have an opinion about everything so because you are paying for your own wedding you should just do what you want. you can't please everyone.

Don't tell her anything about the wedding.

I'm not kidding. If she is going to judge, but not pay/help/support, then she doesn't get to know anything.

When she asks, "Oh, I don't want to talk about the wedding right now! That's all I ever talk about, I feel so boring! Tell me about *insert thing she does*."

I am sorry this is happening. My mother-in-law did something kind of similar. We went to look on venues on a Saturday and then stayed the night at my mother-in-law's house because she lives about an hour from the area we were looking at and we live four hours. We planned to also go look at venues that Sunday. My mother-in-law made us for guilty for not inviting her so we ended up inviting her and my mom because I felt it was only fair if his mom went with us so did my mom. I think moms tend to think they need to be included in planning weddings even if they aren't paying for it. My mom never actually said she wanted to go with us, but she was thrilled when we asked her to. Your future mother-in-law is just going to have to accept that you guys found a venue you love and want to book especially since you are paying for it.