Future husband wants my brother to be a groomsman but not my other brother. Etiquette?

Personally, I would not choose between my brothers. It's either both or none. But I am very close with my family so for me, I would add extra an bridesmaid just so both can be in it or just have one bridesmaid walk with both brothers.

But if you are not as close with him as the other, it might be okay.

With my brothers, I would be fine with only having one of them. It really depends on the relationship FH has with your brothers.

If you feel bad about the other brother being excluded, ask him to be on your side. Problem solved.

My FH only asked one of his own brothers. He is only close with one of them. I have three siblings and we only asked one of them. We chose this because we want the day to be as drama free as possible. It was the right choice for us. You just need to decide what feels right for you, you could add one more bridesmaid.

It's up to you and your FH but your sides definitely don't have to be even!

It all depends on your relationship with him. Can he be involved by doing a reading, handing out programs, etc.?

I'm planning to ask one sibling and not another, I'm simply closer to one. No biggie, etiquette says you have your closest with you.

It's all 3 of my brothers or none at all.

My fh chose one of my brothers as a GM and I chose one of his sisters as a BM. I think he should choose who he feels he wants by his side. It never feels good to have people guilt you into choosing someone that you didn't intend to ask. Maybe your brother can do something else in the wedding.

I don't see the problem. And really if it came down to it, who cares if the sides are uneven?

It's not an issue of etiquette. If it bothers you, have him stand on your side.

I have only one of my 5 sisters as a BM. The others are mature enough to understand that if I asked them all, plus had a few of my closest friends, it would look like my wedding should be in a cathedral.

While it is true that it's not an etiquette issue, I wouldn't exclude one brother. I'd either talk to FH about adding a fourth groomsman (sides don't have to be even) or I would add the brother on your side as a bridesman.