Future Fund Jar

If you don’t have a registry, most guests will give you cash.

I always give a card and cash for weddings whether they have a registry or not,

Your guests will choose to give you a physical gift or cash or check in a card. Putting out any sort of extra container (Future Fund, Honeyfund, Money Tree etc) begging for money is inappropriate because it implies that your guests were not generous enough and you want more out of their wallet. Can you see how that could be perceived by your guests?

There’s no difference between the dollar dance, a honeymoon fund, and your future jar idea. The purpose is the same- to collect money from your guests by putting something (the jar) in their face that screams “give me money”. IMO, it’s tacky. People know how to give money without this.

Any spin on the "fund" idea is still a bad one. If you didn't register, people will likely give you monetary gifts without you saying anything. Have a box to collect cards at the reception and be done with it

I think the Future Fund idea is even more offensive than a Honey Fund. At least the Honey Fund is related to the wedding. The Future Fund sounds like you want your guests to support you from a financial standpoint.

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Yep - any way you label it it is a direct solicitation for cash. Please don't do it. No one gets to fund your future except you and your hubby.

Stop and think about what the point is. Do you think your guests won't give you gifts if you don't have a fund? Do you think they will run out and buy random things if there is nothing on your registry? If not, then they will give you cash if you just don't say anything. So why offend people by having a "future fund"?

It is tacky and it is begging for money. What’s the difference between a “future fund” jar and a honeymoon fund or dollar dance? The purpose of all of those is to make money off of your wedding, which should be the last thing on your mind.
If you have no registry, most of your guests will
automatically gift cash or a check. It’s no secret that cash is a good gift. So when they arrive with cash and card in hand, do you expect them to open their wallets and put more money in your panhandling jar?

The money dance is more then just "getting money" in my opinion. It allows you some extra time with your guests that you may not get. Also it is a tradition for a lot of different cultures. The jars I just don't really understand... people are going to buy you a present if that's what they do whether or not you have a registry. Have you looked into putting gift cards, or honeymoon upgrades to a registry?

Personally, any way you attempt to ask for money from guest is inappropriate. Most will give you check or cash anyway as a gift.

Okay. Thanks guys.

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Hi Heather! Usually, by not having a registry, guests will choose to bring cash or a check either way. I hope this answers your question and if you have any others or concerns, please don't hesitate to connect.

I think asking for money in anyway is tacky (just my opinion). Usually, when a guest comes to a wedding, they bring their card sealed with their cash/gift card/whatever in the card. So they've already decided how much they will gift you (if any at all). I wouldn't assume they would have additional cash on them. So I would think it may be awkward and make guests feel uncomfortable since they usually decide prior if they gift you money or not, and if they do they put it in the card.

Why bother with a jar? If you don’t have a registry, people who want to give you a gift will most likely include cash/check in a card. I always bring a card with cash/check to weddings. If I ever saw a future fund/honeyfund jar at a wedding I would ignore it because the money I’m gifting you was included in my card and I’m not giving you anything additional. I would just not do a registry and not have any kind of jar set out for additional funds and definitely don’t ask for money when you send your invitations.