I feel like my poor friends and coworkers are tired of my stories at this point, and thought some of you may find this as irritating and honestly kind of funny as I did...
So my bridal shower is Feb 29th, we are doing a seated tea party. We set the RSVP date as Feb 8th because we need time to make the name cards for the tables, and to make sure we have the right amount of tea cups (the cups are doubling as a favor).
On the 9th, we hadn't heard from a SINGLE person from FHs famly had RSVPd (about 20 people total). I had FH ask FMIL to reach out to those people and remind them to RSVP if they planned on attending. She called last night (Feb 10th) and confirmed a few people that were coming. FH asked if one ( a cousin) was bringing any of her girls with her. FMIL stated she did not know and he asked if she could find out as it was important in seat planning. She then started yelling at him that it is not fair to expect people to respond to an RSVP with a definitive number, especially because they may not have read the entire invitation. FH responded by telling her that it is rude to plan to attend an event and not let the host know. It is printed BOLDLY on the invitation to RSVP to the Mother of the Bride by text or call by Feb 8th. She told him that it was NOT rude but we were being rude by harassing people.
In what world is it not rude to not rsvp but still plan to attend an event when you were specifically asked to RSVP?!