Renay
Devoted April 2020

Funny/annoying rsvp story

Renay, on February 11, 2020 at 4:52 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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I feel like my poor friends and coworkers are tired of my stories at this point, and thought some of you may find this as irritating and honestly kind of funny as I did...

So my bridal shower is Feb 29th, we are doing a seated tea party. We set the RSVP date as Feb 8th because we need time to make the name cards for the tables, and to make sure we have the right amount of tea cups (the cups are doubling as a favor).

On the 9th, we hadn't heard from a SINGLE person from FHs famly had RSVPd (about 20 people total). I had FH ask FMIL to reach out to those people and remind them to RSVP if they planned on attending. She called last night (Feb 10th) and confirmed a few people that were coming. FH asked if one ( a cousin) was bringing any of her girls with her. FMIL stated she did not know and he asked if she could find out as it was important in seat planning. She then started yelling at him that it is not fair to expect people to respond to an RSVP with a definitive number, especially because they may not have read the entire invitation. FH responded by telling her that it is rude to plan to attend an event and not let the host know. It is printed BOLDLY on the invitation to RSVP to the Mother of the Bride by text or call by Feb 8th. She told him that it was NOT rude but we were being rude by harassing people.

In what world is it not rude to not rsvp but still plan to attend an event when you were specifically asked to RSVP?!

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  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
    Maggie ·
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    Honestly having the same problem here!!!! FH’s family can even be in a group text and no one says if they’re coming or not let alone on an invitation. It’s ridiculous but we knew it would happen so we put our rsvp date earlier so we have more time to “harass” them
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  • Sharon
    Expert October 2020
    Sharon ·
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    OMG... they won't even read the whole invitation?!! As if an invitation is soooo long to read? and you're rude for following up with people who didn't rsvp?! lol....you gotta laugh because you can't kill them 🙄🤣
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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Some people are not etiquette wise. I probably would have said that they do not need to come since they feel they are being harrassed.

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated January 2021
    Brittany ·
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    Rude to ask for a RESPONSE to an RSVP?! That's literally what the R stands for! The whole acronym is French for "please respond". Girl, good luck lol
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  • Jeanette
    Devoted July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    😂😂😂 Wow... I mean, how long are invitations to read anyhow?? This is so silly. Its not even etiquette, it is common sense. 😂
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  • Renay
    Devoted April 2020
    Renay ·
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    I knew you ladies would understand where I am coming from LOL. FH couldn't understand why I was laughing. Oh honey, because it is the only way to cope!

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  • Will & Tiara
    Super September 2019
    Will & Tiara ·
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    I think this comes from a place of anger and jealousy. Yuck. Too bad for you. I would have uninvited them on the spot. Creep!

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    Right?! People are crazy lol.

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  • Renay
    Devoted April 2020
    Renay ·
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    I actually heard from one of the cousins and one of the aunts and both were very kind and apologetic that they missed the date. The aunt had a fall earlier in the week and broke an arm, and the cousin's newborn came down with RSV. It seems the only person who thinks its rude and harassing is FMIL. But we butt heads frequently and I'm not surprised lol.

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